Hi,

I'm new here and new to The Game, but have done well with women for a long while - yet not the ones I really want, obviously, hence my being here. I've recently corrected my posture and body language, through pua learnings and now have a pick of 12 girls to go out with...

Anyway, I met a new HB while working a promotions job on Sunday and had a great day with her. She hasn't had a b/f for 2 years and has made it clear to a friend who got me the job that she is looking - he even told her he had someone for her (me). The day was spent flirting and being very forward with great and repeated IOI's, qualifying herself repeatedly and touching my arm, etc. Since we worked a long shift and only had brief time I closed her on a day 2 which she is really up for and wants to spend cooking at her place (ideal!).

Next: I txted her after leaving that night saying how great it was to meet her and that I was looking fwd to our date since I thought it would be a lot of fun. No reply. I txted on Christmas day, 2 days later saying merry xmas with some c&f about her not having gotten any presents due to being naughty. I get a reply this time in which she says she will call me later in the day if things aren't too manic there. I don't hear back. Today nothing.

I feel tempted to txt or call since my phone game is not bad (if I can time the call right!). But I've been thinking about her too much and know I have oneitis with her despite the other girls that look good and are very interested. I guess I should now wait for her to get back to me... what do you think? If I do get back to her, say tomorrow, what should I say? What would you do in this situation?

Thanks!

Okay, update:

I've since texted her with c&f and a neg and she replied that she was sorry about not having been back in touch due to 'bad reception' in the area and that she would call me sometime soon. I've not got back to her after that and am leaving it for her to call.

When she does call, what do I do: comfort build or c&f and try to raise the tension? I know she wants to go meet up, I just want to maximize the attraction but don't know what I need to do to best achieve that.

Any help is greatly appreciated!

Whatever you do, don't text or call her anymore until she contacts YOU. You have to be the prize, and when you constantly call her you come off as someone who is needy, and not someone who has 12 other options. When she calls you again, don't try too hard to make it an elongated comfort building conversation. It sounds like she is busy so one, a long comfort building conversation doesn't seem possible, and two, you need to appear busy; you need to be the one who has the best thing possible going for him at all times. So when she calls you need to take what you get. In other words, if she has time to talk for hours, go for it. If she doesn't, then make it appear you are very busy as well and you only have enough time to set a date with her. Leave an open loop like, "Hey something really funny happened to me and it reminded me of you. . . Oh wait, hang on, I gotta go soon I'll tell you later. I'm going bowling with some friends tomorrow do you want to come along?". This peaks her interest because she wants to know what happened in your funny story that reminds you of her, and she will be anxious for your date that much more. Lastly, you must end the conversation. You need to be the first to hang up, because it shows you are in control. Take this advice with a grain of salt because every situation is different and shouldn't go exactly by the book.

Have you got a call back yet?

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Keep us updated sebkarlsson.

I noticed that sometimes even when things are going good, and they say they will call, they don't!

Basically follow what Soma said, just make sure you end the call first, what I would do if she calls is make some small chit chat and then get the date and hang up. See how it goes just make sure you don't get any awkward silences.

Assuming she has not called back, what did he do wrong or what should he have done to ensure a date?

Thanks for the feedback guys.

No, she's not called yet. I did txt her back, much later. Not the best idea! :/ Just chit chat in there as well! Damn that was stupid.

I agree Icecold, sometimes these things do screw up when they look to be going great. That's what I want to avoid, so yeah, no more initiations from me and good point on not doing any comfort-building. I did let her know that I am very busy over the next few days with a friend's wedding. I guess I will just need to leave it now since I've pushed it far enough.

I thought it might be best to not go straight for arranging a date on the next call and giving it a bit of cat-string first. This is because she may or may not be back in London for NYE, in which case I could be seeing her in 1-2 weeks time. See, once I have the date set, I don't want to have any txt or phone chat before that. ...I think it will lower the attraction/tension.

Edit: of course in the meantime practicing my game got me a number of a new girl last night. Sod's law.

Ok, still no call. I have a question:

Assuming that I still speak to her again on the phone, I guess I will need to build the attraction up again. Should I do a take away or something else as 'punishment' for not having called? How can I DHV on the next call?

I don't know how you could do a take away over the phone without hanging up on her, which I'm guessing isn't what you want to do. But here's some ideas you might want to look into:

Assuming she calls you can pretend that you're in the middle of something. Say something like, "Hang on a sec" and pull the phone a little away from your mouth and laugh and pretend you're talking to someone and having a really good time. Then after a few seconds of that talk to her again and say, "You're not going to believe this story I have for you, oh wait hang on, I'm kind of busy right now can I give you a call back later today?" and then later call and set up the date. Or if you want you can attempt to set the date then but that might not be the best idea because you're pretending to be rushed and you can't make any solid plans in a 2-4 minute phone call.

If you want to DHV tell her a story that recently happened to you that will peak her interest and have tons of DHV spikes. The only take away I can really think of is maybe ending the phone call quickly with something like, "Hey I gotta go, maybe I'll call you later" and hang up quickly and abruptly after that. I dunno, just some ideas.

If she doesn't call soon you can always give it one last shot and call her. Say something like you want to hang with her or be with her and haven't figured out why and want to meet up with her. Hint that you are curious b/c she has "hijacked your brain" as Mystery would say it. Something like, "I haven't been able to get you out of my head for the past two days and I can't figure out why. . .Anyway, I'm going to the coffee shop in a little while and you should come along". Something that shows you're interested in her, she's special and not like other girls b/c you obviously have options, and you want to make an effort to get to know her. Maybe she will notice that and be up for it, I dunno. Just an idea.

I'd keep gaming and not focus on this one to much.

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Thanks guys, both good advice at this stage I think.

Good news: I called a different HB that I met over a week ago and set up a date. I put a time constraint, gave the old "I want to meet you because you're cute, but I wanted to find out if you have more than that going for you" and had her drooling in response. I'm meeting her next week.

I guess this thread is dead for the moment. Will update and looking forward to becoming an active member in the forum.

I hate it when girls dont reply like that, it's just not polite. Grow some fcking manners, when we text you its the polite thing to do to text back.

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What a title!

Yeah! That's a new thing tho! It didn't used to be like that a few years back from what I remember...

Update: txted her today since she's now back and found out she is now ill and is postponing our drink together... so I suggested she join me tomorrow for a coffee when in her area. So interest is still there and the set is still okay.

With a bit of work this could work out.

Okay, this is still going on.

We went out for the coffee and then I bounced for a drink at a bar. She wasn't drinking and had her car in a car park where she 'could only keep it for an hour'. We had a good time and had good conversations, but I couldn't prolong the date. We had kino, but I don't feel I had a chance to escalate from her holding my arm and then hand.

A couple of days later we were looking at going to the cinema (saturday), but she was working the next day and had taxes (!) to do and 'other stuff'. She wants to meet up next weekend now.

I don't really understand where I'm at anymore! She was ready for the kiss on the first day I met her, but we were working, so there was no good time to do it. Either I've missed the boat and need to re-attract or back off and ONLY let her come to me, or take her wanting to meet up next weekend as an IOI and escalate this from a movie back to the original plan of me cooking at her place (I'm a chef).

What do you guys think is happening?!

honestly bro, i think this is a case of her having buyers remorse. i mean on ur first day of meeting her she feels she might have shown too much interest into you and escalated the issue to a high level which later on she regreted. in my opinion, just game other chicks and keep this one at a sow tempo if u really want her. although others will say u have oneitis and stuff, my opinion is that u can chase someone u really have feelings for. untill u know she is really not worth it or this is not really getting anywhere, i say try to salvage it. but if u can, game other HBs in the process and move on. cheers.