I hung out with this girl once, the vibe was mediocre. The second time however, it was completely more sexual and she loved me. "You are such a challenge, I love it!" and we made out numerous times. I kept pushing to chill with her a bit longer in the night. Anyways, I we made out fooled around outside her house a lot, and then it was whatever. We were both drunk, left on great terms that night, she texted me even "If I didn't have a lot of meetings tommorow I would be making out with you right now! " or some shit.

Then, I get at her two days later, call her, she's really cold. "Yeah, I'm busy tonight." "Not busy enough for a cool mother fucker like me! come on, you owe me!" (it was a joke from the first night) and she was unresponsive.

I'm confused, I figure she doesn't want to be seen as "cheap" so I'm kind of backing off at the moment. To be fair, my experience comes from single night lays, or day 2 lays, I'm curious how others would tackle this sort of situation. This girl is sexy and I'd like to atleast FWB her before I move on.

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"Make you my wife, improve in time, no wine and dine, don't waste my time, mature your mind!" - Kool Keith, Fine Girls

Shameless bump towards gentlemen of game.

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"Make you my wife, improve in time, no wine and dine, don't waste my time, mature your mind!" - Kool Keith, Fine Girls

I'm suspicious it was how you replied to we "I'd be making out with you right now!" message. What did you reply? Did you reply at all?

This is a massive IOI and a huge risk for a girl - if you don't respond to this sort of thing in a timely way, she will turn 100% on you.

In the mean time, try to get a call in, if it rings out, send a text - either way, be the guy that got you here. If no reply, move on for now. It can be tough but don't send a wussy "hey what's going on?" message, just leave it. She may regret it and respond, or not, at least for now.

I feel like I fucked up, I was intoxicated and should have mentioned this, I responded some shit like "haha, you're sexy... Even if you brought me to a country bar. I hope everything goes well tommorow, if it doesn't just blame it on how great it I am. (was a sort of inside joke she made earlier)" Also, if it means anything she said this the night of after I left her and she was making out with me in front of her house. She sent it like twenty minutes after I left.

I think I should have left it, but yet, I'm going to leave it for a couple days then send a fuck around message, no response I'm deleting.

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"Make you my wife, improve in time, no wine and dine, don't waste my time, mature your mind!" - Kool Keith, Fine Girls

Well with the only information I can truly understand - her texting a sexy message, and then after that - completely cold - the only thing I know for SURE is she felt like it wasn't reciprocated.

Only you can probably work out why, but she didn't get a response that let her know you felt the same way. If she felt you were too cool about it in that moment - not feeling as lustful for her as she was for you, that would do it.

The psychology of it is - men are always ready for sex, women have to be cautious. So when a woman comes onto a guy, and he's not quite there, she takes it really seriously. Something is really missing. She doesn't consciously hate you or anything, she just naturally goes cold. It's just biology, this stuff evolved the way it did because it worked.