I was wondering if anyone could offer any sort of advice on how to have good sex, it sounds kind of stupid, but knowledge is power. are there any good books out there or anything? or maybe just general tips we can all share?

First off, it takes a big man to ask about sex'ing in general. Plus, you will be way ahead of the game by having the confidence to back up what you say.

I recommend going to a cheap book shop around your area. Take a look at the reading material (don't feel embarrassed about this, be proud that your willing to learn this stuff) and just check out how different books offer information.

The reason I say this is because their are usually three types of books. One will all pictures. One will writing, and one with a combination of both. Depending on what kind of learning you need at the time will help determine the kind of book you want.

For instance, books with alot of writing tend to be good if your good at visualizing what is being read. While seeing pictures might be good if you can see the technical side of things without articulation.

Long story short, here is a couple I found useful...

How to Satisfy A Women Every Time...by Naura Hayden ( no pictures)
Built for Sex: The Complete Fitness and Nutrition Program for Maximum Performance by Scott Hays

Dont underestimate the book by Naura Hayden. Very powerful tool.

Hope this helps,

Samex

books? ever tried to learn swimming through a correspondence course?

1. you can't really know what good sex is to her. not even lesbian women know what the other pussy truly enjoys. you need time to explore her preferences. everything else is just a circus stunt.

2.don't force yourself into that "great lover" pigeon hole. sex is only a part of the whole picture and doesn't make up for the rest just because it's awesome. it's like roses given to a girl, the flower can't do the talking for you; there's just so much more needed than that one aspect.

3. you can get some knowledge from books, but you need to know that for short term relationships it really don't matter. there's more than good mindblowing sex needed to make long term relationships last however.
..a good read would be "peace between the sheets".

4. music with a clear rhythm can help get in sync during sex. getting in sync is the basics needed; everything else you best learn from her.

thanks alot, I appreciate the help, and support. I will definitely give the Naura Hayden book a go!

thanks for the advice. I understand that every girl is different but I've heard from a few girls that "a certain guy wasn't as great as another guy". if I'm looking at a one night stand or short term relationship then I dont have time to get to know what she enjoys, but there must be certain things that women in general all appreciate though right?

also I' not trying to "force myself into the 'great lover' pigeon hole". I'm simmply trying to gain some knowledge as to what an ideal 'good lover' is so that I have the confidence to back up my game. if that makes any sense.

thanks alot for the advice though!

I agree.

You learn by just doing it. It also totally depends on the sex you like. Romantic and soft, hard and beastlike or a combination of those. Just go with whatever you like (if you know she's okay with it though, don't go sticking things like fingers and penises up her but without any warning, that won't be appreciated).

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Let me give it a try
I have 7 years of sex life behind me and still learn.
First of all i've had and still have good and bad sex.

Bad sex:
Having sex for the sake of having it
Not focusing on the feelings her body her skin her moaning her moves
but focusing on the actions.
Focussing on hér feelings too much and therefore not getting arrowsed yourself.

Good sex:
I've been in a long relationship where there is more trust and the sex is different.
The best sex to me is breakup sex. The feelings of leaving eachother make you feel asif the two of you are doing something naughty. The i like you a lot but we shouldn't do this sucks you into the moment.

However on pick-up this is how i roll:

1. Kiss her
If you kiss her and she starts kissing more wild do not try do reciprocate by kissing even wilder and so on... You risk getting to a point were u become blunt.
Don't be afraid of kissing a little slow.
At this point touch her hair her neck/ears and verry important her face..

2. Touch her body (clothes on)
Start by slowly touching her body ... Remember that everytime you touch one of her intimate places for the first time she'll feel some stars rising in her belly.
So if you touch all her intimate spots too quick there are no stars left. So slowly build it up and leave her intimates for last

3. Touching her intimates (clothes on)
You've touched her inner thighs and the part where her belly goes into her breasts. I start with grabbing the breasts without touching the nipple part (firm grip). You can now verry gentilly work to her varina area from her inner thighs.

4. Resistance
Almost alway you get some resistance.
If she pulls away your hand go with her pull and go back to only kissing and work it up again. Repeat this untill she gets so horny she would want to continue or she will start to speak to you.
If she does it verbally; like i'm in my period or we should leave this for some other time you respond by backing up completely. Turn verry neutral and sinsere.. Ask her is theres anything wrong and look into her eyes like you see your mother dying... She'll rationalise and say ok but i have to go to the bathroom first... or you can continue by taking steps back and continue kissing...

5. Into her pants
Now she knows whats going to happen open the button from her pants. If she lets you your pretty much inside her already...
Kiss her and get your hand into her pants and find her clit ... The clitoris is not a button but a tube that starts verry high ... sometimes even in the area where the plants grow. It's a sort of tube and the bottum part is verry sensitive... Start high and gentilly build up pressure and rithm (start higher then you think you should)... Then go a little lower, release pressure and build it up again.... Go lower and build it up again....
Now keep in mind that it is better to go verry slow down...
If she stops kissing and start breathing into your mouth your good

6. Get undressed
When youve been doing it slow her vagina is wet now and she wants you in her. Sometimes the girl comes already ... I'm fine with that but she'll be a little more horny if you didn't make her come.
Take off her pants and youres etc.
Note that i haven't touch her insides yet...

7. Finish foreplay
Ok so before i put on a condom i check if she's wet... If not i wont fuck her yet.
Why? condoms that break/ Not be able to get in in/ Losing your erection/ starting to ask eachother questions like "are you ok?"/ AWKWARNESS!

So lets say shes not wet (enough) and you noticed by checking the temperature with your fingers gentily... JUST CHILL BACK! dont start acting like some wild dog ... be cool and be gentile to her again... Be sensitive and kiss her gentily... Pull her naked body towards you and let your belly's touch eachother (grab her firmly now). Touch and lick her tits... bite her neck ... But remember FEEL this yourself ... If you touch her and think about these tips you've got from the puaforum and what to do next you're not in the moment and you'll be blunt. Work her clit again and check temperature... if shes a little wet you can also look for her g-spot ... and back to the clit...

8. Fucking
Ok be relaxed and don't be hasty.. Again feel what you are doing .. and don't think that if you just go harder it'll be better. Don't think about what she's thinking. Touch her body/kiss her etc. Don't be afraid to make her change positions ... Girls like you to lead!!

Good luck!


##Oh yeah i have to add this!
Tis is my Fisttimesex routine ... I works on almost all girls form me as a STARTING POINT!!! .... imediately anfter sex ask her this...

So what do you like most?

She will be a little hesitant to respond but ask it asif your a doctor.
You find out that she doesn't like working the clit but comes when you fuck her hard. Or she likes you to work her g-spot or positions that make her come etc.
So sex is different with every girl listen to her and adapt.

Looks okay to me.


I also like to undo her bra with one hand while we're kissing. Quick and sneaky. Get's me a laugh or two most of the time when they suddenly notice you've undone her bra.

Plus, it's easier to get to her breasts.

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