This is my first post so bear with me here. I had a party a two weekends ago and an attractive blonde showed up. We danced a bit, she seemed interested, I got sloshed and at some point she went home. I see this same blonde at a party this last Friday. Things are going well, she seems into me, we kiss some, I get her number. I called her earlier today (Sunday) to ask her if she wants to come over and have some drinks before going out to dinner tomorrow. Her response was odd. She told me Yes, if she she didn't have anything going on. My reaction to that wasn't great. I basically said "So, should I call you tomorrow to find out?" She said yes and that was basically the conversation. I feel like I messed up by not being farther in control of the conversation. I also feel like if I responded with something like "What, I'm just your back up plan?" It might have put that idea in her head. I've only been aware of this online community for a few days, so I'm excited to see if its as good as it sounds. Help me out guys, where do I go from here?

Also, I posted this on another forum, I'm curious to see which one lends better advice.

Boater First up, welcome to the Forum. I joined up last year and have had unparalleled success not just because of the forum and feedback but also because of the humour and encouragement of the guys on here. Tying some of the wacky stuff can be a laugh.

I have a few suggestions. You may not like the first one. Don't contact her when she expects it. By this I mean leave it for the weekend in general and then hit her up for a weeknight date.

2. Your are being shit tested so acting too keen will disqualify you or put you in the friends basket.

3. Make her laugh when you talk and text, always be the one to end the conversation

4. Remember there are 100's and 1000's of hot chicks to date, that you can pull, so really she should be justifying herself to you. If you cheeckily extract justifications from her you can escalate things better.

5. When you are with her kino escalate without acknowledging that is what you are doing.

This is brief I know, but give it a crack. Be confident. Be you and let us know how you get on.

So should I call her back tomorrow asking her again if she wants to go out?

You offered it once, and she basically shit tested you by telling that if she has nothing else, than yes.

That's basically putting you in the second category. Your a man, you don't belong there. Don't call her tomorrow. Leave it alone. If she calls and says she wants to come over, than sure, if not, DON't bring it up whatsoever. Don't remind it to her.

If you see her later on and she says what happened with the plans, just say someone else came over instead, and thats it. Let her think about it, if she asks more questions just enjoy yourself, and don't ignore the questions.

Basically your putting the guilt on her for not taking advantage of the situation for being with you. KEEP THAT FRAME OF MIND. and you will be fine, i promise you this.

Hope that helps.

Sam