I met this girl through friends and we instantly vibed off each other. I followed this site and read a lot pua material over the last few years without ever fully committing to it but obviously a lot of it has rubbed off. It went crazily well I teased her, was challenge, push pull the lot and it was natural... loads of IOI's, always wanting to see me, txting, messaging on FB. I think maybe we vibed a little to much too quickly if that makes sense. Anyway I've k-closed on multiple occasion now. Shes attracted to me, she wants me and she trusts me I can read all that but she still resists. Anytime I break through that resistance shes all over me but we keep going around in circles. It's all a bit intense and all she seems to know is she does not want a relationship and she sees kissing an anything more as getting involved. Its a case of she knows where it will lead but is adamant she dont want that.
I just wanted advice I think maybe I've become to available, she has a lot of the power over the situation right now I know that. We went out on friday had a great time, i got a ton of social proof from everywhere we went which was perfect, at one point i saw an old friend an she was all over me on the dance floor and you could see that the girl i was with was jealous. Later on we went back to hers and ended up in her car. I think i opened up a tad too much there too much alcohol but i k-closed before we went into hers to sleep. She spent the next day looking after getting me food drink whatever I wanted... I stayed over that night but she refused to let me kiss her (if she had let me escalating would of been easy know that from previous experience but i screwed that majorly with one horrible comment halfway through foreplay which really i shouldnt have ever been able to recover from), clearly wanted me to though. I started escalating and she would let me right up to the point of actually passing the point of no return then she would stop it I had her stupidly turned on she let me know that not that was really needed, she has amazing will power ill give her that. Anyway I went home on the sunday she wanted to see me again on the tuesday to help me sort out my cv. We got to talking and she was basically like I dont know what I want but I know I dont want a relationship but she doesnt want things to change. Threw out the dreaded friends comment, i was like if things dont change we'll just end up back her to which she replied yea friends dont really act like this. She wanted me to talk more clearly pushing for my thoughts an feelings but for some reason I had nothing. Throughout this interaction ive been in a good place seeing where it goes all of a sudden I feel like im being friend zoned, giving her higher value and its like im a love sick child or summin before its always been fun, playful and my mindsets been at its very best. I think my inner game has a lot to do it with up until these last few interactions its been great exactly what it should be now its returning to the whole blaming myself for every reaction or action i get off her etc. etc.
Was looking for advice because i do see this girl as a definate long term prospect because of the way we are together always have fun no matter how lame the situation, always laughing its good and because of the way she responded to my various little tests. Ive spent weeks constantly testing (was actually looking for an excuse to not be interested in her because of a few other complications) but she jumps through all the hoops, she wants what i want outta of life, has the same beliefs, attitudes, its crazy, shes fun, caring and i can see how she would treat me as an other half. Shes actually somehow managed to answer pretty much every single random question i throw out there with the exact answer i would look for which is a lil crazy even the trick ones she really is on my wavelength. Thats obviously worked in reverse too and there is an element of it being a bit of a whirlwind getting too intense too quick.
Anyway I think I need a bit of perspective on this, maybe even a slap round the face
Dont ask dont get, please help me!
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