Hi guys, very new to the game. Try to keep it short.
I met this girl on the bus, I get her number before she gets off. Two days later, I text her and we made plans for dinner for the next day. 3rd day (middle of the day) I text:
Me: We still on for tonight?
Her (4 hrs later): Sorry, I forgot I had my friend's birthday party tonight. Tomorrow instead?
Me: Yea, that's fine
Next day (around 4)
Me: Ok, my friend told me about this really nice place downtown. Thought we'd go there.
Her (2 hours later): I'm sorry I had a lot of work to do today. I don't mean to bail, but Im really tired. maybe we can do it another time.
Me: yea, it's ok.

At this point, I realized nothing was happening so I gave up on her. Later that week she facebooks me saying she wished she would've went on that date with me. She told me she was free Thursday night and we had dinner together and kiss closed.
Saturday we were having a text convo and I ask her to go see a movie sunday. 3 days later she responds making an excuse about her phone. and says we should go the upcoming weekend.
Saturday (mid-day):
Me: So I was thinking of taking you up on that movie offer.
Her: I don't think i have enough time tonight, but maybe tomorrow night.
Me: yea, maybe we can go sometime during the day, text me.

She facebooks Sunday night. I asked her what she did all day. She tells she got locked out part of the day, then her friend came over, but never actually addresses the fact that we were supposed to see a movie.
What do you guys make of this? She constantly sends txt messages hours late. Flakes so many times already. Is she playing a game? What can I do to get her to respect my time/effort? Is she trying to have the power over me?
Im new, any advice is appreciated. Thanks guys.

You are going to have to punish her for flaking. Maybe a freeze out. You have to make it clear that it is not okay.

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What do you mean by a freeze out?


I am actually going through the same thing with this one girl myself. She is so flakey, it is unbelievable, yet when we do go out, she is completely into me. I think this girl really likes you, man. She is always trying to reschedule (major IOI). Maybe she was just busy or tired, you know!

I am very curious to hear what JohnnyMagic has to say about how you should proceed.

Stop talking to her for a couple of days. She is most likely shit testing you. You need to shift the frame and not let her have the power. If you have built enough attraction the freeze out will work. When she blows you off again or tries to reschedule then another freeze out. Get it? She will realize that when she does this you stop talking to her.

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Name is MC I'm a number one rapper
I still buy toys and read comics on the crapper
Still playin' stand-up root beer tapper
I'm mackin' mad ho's and you're still fuckin' fat girls ~MC Chris

Do you think she is doing it deliberately?

maybe. Either way it is unacceptable thus the freeze out.

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Name is MC I'm a number one rapper
I still buy toys and read comics on the crapper
Still playin' stand-up root beer tapper
I'm mackin' mad ho's and you're still fuckin' fat girls ~MC Chris

She's probably not doing it on purpose, she's just not that interested and when it comes to the time she can't be bothered. Or maybe she's shy...

Who cares why? She's flaked on you too many times and you're letting her get away with it. They're not even good excuses, some of the time she's basically saying "nah, can't be arsed, got better things to do, I'll meet you another time". I wouldn't freeze her out, I'd just call her out on it. Don't do it in an angry way or needy way, just calmly tell her that you're not happy with how she keeps flaking on you and ask whether ot not she's serious about meeting with you. If she does want to meet you she'll say yes, she'll probably apologise, and she's more likely to make sure she turns up next time. If not at least you can move on to another girl and not waste any more time on her.

Ok, I have done this to plenty of girls. This is what i call BS text or confuse text. In one way or another it is a "shit text" Seems like you lost alot of power with this girl and she is in control. Pretty much she is confused about if she really likes and wants to give you a chance but she isn't nice enough to tell you somehow that she isn't all that interested. Solution is, don't text her or call or facebook for the next week. Is week passes by and she doesn't do any of these things to you than move on to the other fish. If she does don't be a little boy and get all excited. Wait few hrs and text her back. From here you are pretty much back in a game if it happens and do not screw it up again.

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