Been reading this forum for a month or so but never have posted. But anyway...

I've been trying some of the thing everybody here is saying because well...it's been two years since i've tried getting first dates and such cause of a long term relationship. Needless to say it's been awhile. I recently tried some stuff on this girl I work with and thought it was going well. I guess it wasnt going as well as I was thinking. So all I'm looking for here is some advice on what to do next time around.

So this girl started working with me at a bowling alley. Things were flirty. She was showing interest for sure. My boss even had to have a talk with me about not bring that "situation" into the work place.

I used some of the negs and such. For example she wanted to add me to her facebook at work. So she called me over and said "dont I look cute in this pic".....I said "eh....not bad....not as cute as I am though" all of course with a flirty humor. She laughed and gave a playful shove. (a bunch of situations like this happened but no need to go into it in detail).

So little things like this happen then she starts getting more interested. She would start grabbing my ass and I would give her massages and such.
She even told my boss that she was hoping we'd hangout sometime.
I invited her out once cause she kept saying that we should hang out. But instead of hanging out she cancelled at the last minute. A week later she over heard me talking to my boss about golf and she told me we should go golfing on friday. Again she cancelled at the last minute.

Anyway...I know this is a very brief version of what happened. I was just wondering if i read the situation wrong and where I made mistakes. As for this one girl...if she keeps being flirty and such I'll fool around back but only because it makes work go by faster. Anything beyond that I'm not going to fool around with.

Thanks

if you want to date her you should be direct with her and tell her that you dont like flakey women and that if she should cancel then make it a day in advance... or another way around it is when you text or call her ask her to do something right then.. hope this helps some

Sounds to me she's just toying with you. I mean shes interested enough to have fun with you at work. But maybe your not interesting enough to hang out with outside of work, because she sees you all day at work.

What I would do is up the sexual tension alot more. Well how you ask. Just go in for a kiss next time your fooling around. Yep grap your balls and do it at work. Fuck it it's a bowling alley. She will 8-10 times kiss back or she'll say not here. Then you still know you can get that after work special. Then the real game is on, and I bet no more of those cancel at the last second things will happen any more either.
Also for awhile to build up enough tension to make want to kiss you. start being a challenge a lil bit, by not always playing around with her , and saying no not here to her next time she touches you. just be really playful with her and you'll like the reponse you will get in return if you play correct. I'm sure others will help as well best wishes friend

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Don't make dates a week in advance either. I'm not sure if thats what your doing but if you are, your conveying to much interest in just her. If you plan something with her make it that evening or the very next day. Tell her you got date an tons of other shit you have to do this weekend but you may be able to fit her into your schedule this evening if shes nice.