right, Lads and Lass's im putting my dignity on the line here so someone can take something from my mistakes and avoid any repeats in the future

so today, i went to a birthday party for one of my friends. all was well, me and a couple of lads went to town, as there werent much talent at the party. i had fun, three make outs, and a girl giving me a handjob in the toilet was not turning out to be bad at all.

later on, i met the girl that started this whole thread, she was with two lads. i immediately walked and asked her for a conversation. fronted her up, as i was not in the mood for bullshit, and i needed to know where we stood. i asked her. gimme 5 minutes to talk. and asked her why there were no replies to my texts. she mentioned that she didnt want a relationship, and her ex had been up and in contact and it had messed her up, along with her friend who was up for the week and acting weird. she had suggested that we be friends. and i told her that im not into the habit of making friends with girls i get with so she can forget it.she said she is going to watch a movie with these lads. movie at 5a.m means her gettting her holes stuffed. i told her i was never after a relationship at this level i can tell she wasnt havin a bar of it and all she wanted was some ass. her replies were retarded like "no" , "um, sorry" "i gotta go"

thinking back, here's where i fucked up.

telling her i like her on the first day, girls are girls. doesnt mater if they are good or bad, they want their holes smashed. so me showing texts of me telling my friends, that she maybe a goodie on our first night was a bullet to my dick.

giving off the early boyfriend vibe. girls date guys they fuck, compared to a looser that wants to wine and dine them first. im sure there are exceptions

being needy - have options with other girls. look at me paying the price

and if you get a girl in your bed, Fuck her and fuck her good. any BS like i did "save for next date" will not happen. there is no next date. instead of fucking her and letting the rest unfold.this s the 3rd girl this year that had been on my bed, butt naked gagging for it, that i havent escalated to sex. in their eyes im a pussy because i thought they were angels.

yo have no idea how hard this is. im typing this shit like a looser while another lad is clearly fucking her brain out and its killing me. i feel sad, alone and helpless. if there is any comfort on how to deal with this, please show me the way

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Dude mistakes happen and it seems you learned all the right lessons from it. You need to be able to blow this shit off because even as you get better you are going to make mistakes, you are just gonna care less because you will have more woman around. I would work on getting more compliance next time before expending this much emotional capital on someone you haven't humped. Also how did this girl go from "virgin, nice girl" to getting here holes stuffed in a tag team? I think both of those scenarios are exaggerated.

its funny they were walking ahead of me, and one dude went home with her, but the other one left. what a bitch eitherway. she didnt owe me anything. but being 19 im sure this is what you can expect. im 29 so expected the same respect i gave. you cant be naive either-way. its usually the good girls that are the worst.

i've attatced a picture of me and her. i have such a limiting belief that these girls dump me because of the way i look. im probably well off the mark but this is part of being hard on yourself

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Dude you look fine in a non-gay way. Plenty of girls like Sri Lanka guys with spikey hair. Anyway some girls will like your swarthy look more than your caucasian peers and some will like it less, many wont care. Since you have no control over that, dont even worry about it. You are being overly critical of yourself and her. Try not to personalize failure or success with woman.

Don't text her. She's not interested in you and how do you think she'll feel that you've got other girls on the go? Would you like to find out that she's not a virgin (how the fuck can you actually know this anyway?) and had other guys on the go. You'd hate her for it and call her a slut no doubt. Such losers on here. Take the hint and stop being such a wuss with your stupid texts.

i dont have other girls on the go. i hooked up with a few in town. this is pretty basic shit. and im not really in the wrong here in hooking up with other birds, when im getting the run around from this one. as far as i know we are both single so whats the point?
i dont think she would care if i had anything on the go. this was clear on the 1st night i pulled her. on the dancefloor she said " i dont mind if you get with other girls" i ignored it. come to think of it, and correct me if im wrong, girls that say this are either shit testing or genuinely have other lads n standby.

im just so bummed that i got replaced so easy. she was eating out of my palmleading upto our first night together. i wont call her a slut. i dont use that word. she was looking for someone with a wilder side with no strings attatched. i wasnt able to give her this. so i cant call her a slut for this.

thanks Detox for your help. my Ego is bruised and i feel like a right chump for getting played.


i need help here.

when it comes to texting, is there a set rule to how much to send? i feel like all the comfort in our interaction was done through texting and had it not happened in the rate it did, we would have never met. however, towards the end it was my undoing

how do you build comfort after a girl had stayed over? as in towards D2

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Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny.