Delaying the kiss doesn't create sexual tension, creating sexual tension creates sexual tension. I only delay the kiss when it would BREAK tension e.g. her friends see her making out with a guy she just met triggering ASD. Valentyn is right, kissing creates comfort, it also breaks one of the three major barriers or what we call closes, #close, kclose, fclose, so it's insanely important in terms of escelation.

Ending the date on a high = you going out with her that means you want to be with her and you are having a good time so you want to end it... WTF TO THE MAX!?!?!?

Let me give you another viewpoint here. This girl could be doing anything she wants from errands to talking with friends or family to just resting but instead she choose to go out with you. That alone puts certain frames into place, by not acting on them you are being incongruent with the context of the interaction.

What would actually raise the sexual tension to the max is kissing her..than be the first to release from the kiss. After that tease the shit out of her by not making out. If she wants to, get close but before you kiss pull away. That actually makes the sexual tension grow a lot. The fact of not kissing just shows that your a pussy not a dick and you're not raising any tension at all. From field experience: women will actually get mad at you for waiting too long before making a move sexually. They start thinking: he likes me why doesn't he kiss me? And you know what's after that? Attraction decreases..and it decreases till it goes away. That's why that chick flaked you..she lost attraction for you and no attraction means no closes..if you don't want to listen to what I'm saying keep sarging..you'll soon see that I'm right! Good luck!

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New HB Nurse Update

We met a few weeks back, we have met twice and one was a lay report
I then went ahead and had the lets be fuck buddy chat
It didnt get a positive or completely negative response
So I left it and gamed other girls

Just recently I re-engaged by text and we built up some good rapprt
She asked me to arrange some 1v1 soccer coaching but she never showed up
An hour later she calls me and I call her back
I was pissed at the time but knew better than to show it
We chat as if it doesn’t phase me and she says we can still catch up
I hesitate with an errr and she says we don’t have to
So I say I am going to have a shower will call you back
Tell her I can come round but not for long as have to go out (Credit this forum)

Turn up and she is in a mood
She is pissed off but not going to adapt to her frame and ask whats wrong – big friend category mistake
Instead I am here to make her laugh and pleasure her
She hugs me and i
I tell her the Mystery skateboarding kid story – swears at me when crossing the road
She laughed and I can tell she feels sensual
I sit down on the sofa and she comes close but as a reaction she puts the tv on
We chat watch a comedy news style program that was on
I have my arm round her and she reaches back exposing her neck and with her left hand reaches over and plays with my shoulder
Since I last saw her I have been working out like a bitch originally to impress her but then for other girls so looking back she must have noticed
As she leans back I take my hand on her cheek and kiss her
There was no real kiss me moment but I had an urge to do it so just did it
I didn’t think about rejection or consequence even though I didn’t know how it would go
She ends up kissing me back and after a short kiss I make sure I pull back first
I don’t say anything and we keep watching tv probably because I am in shock a bit
We kiss another two times each time getting more passionate and me pulling back
Then I pull her over and lay her down on the couch
She has a summer dress on and I lay on top of her with her skirt up
But she resists with LMR so i get off and we sit up again and watch tv
I take her to the bedroom to see her bed as I want one the same
She lays down on her front inviting me to give her a massage
I pull her legs on to the bed and give her a good massage
Each time getting lower and lower until her skirt is up over her bum
As soon as I see her panties I start getting excited as this was exactly how the original lay went down
This makes the massage more sexual as I run my hands up her legs and massage her ass
Then in time with me massaging her ass I run my fingers lower
She doesnt say anything but spreads her legs a bit wider and this is an open invite to play with her pussy
I rub her clit slowly in circles through her panties
I pull off her panties and she helps me take them off with no resistance
I lick my thumb and run it up and down her lips
She is now beginning to get wet and I can smell her sweet juices
Without getting too graphic she gets more turned on and I am grinding on top of her with her moaning then I remember I left my wallet in the car with my condoms (possibly the worst feeling ever)
I get changed to go get them and she says I will check my stash to save me going but I say they have to be large (which is true but more importantly never ever forget to bring condoms even if you dont think sex is on the agenda!!!!)
I go get the condoms and come back pretending that I wasnt out of breath and didn’t run
And when I got back she was sitting on the sofa totally un aroused and negative
I tried to take her by the hand to the bedroom but i knew after 30 seconds that I had lost this opportunity so I dropped it and changed directon talking about something else
We joked around, made fun of a zumba film and then I invited her for a massage
She agreed on the proviso of no sex
I knew this was no challenge and once I got her clothes off and was licking her pussy again she wasn’t feeling it the same as the first time
I did try a bit more for the lay but she said no
I tried every pussy eating move I know and was getting her to give me tips on what she likes. She said use your finger as well my plan being to get her really horny that she will want passionate sex
Anyway I feel her getting close and stop and go up to kiss her but she exclaimed she was seconds away form an orgasm
So that plan sort of backfired (lesson from next time we have great dirty talk but if I involve cock more, get her talking about it, imagining it and holding it then it creates a more natural progression from pussy licking)
A minute later her alarm went as she had to get ready for her night shift as a nurse.
I had to get her back round to comfort before I left so we chatted a little bit and i said how it was good to see her again and she said she had a great night


My question is where to take it from here:
I am not looking for a relationship with her and she has just come out of a messed up LTR so I don’t think she is either. I have already had a chat about being fuck buddys but I have never been able to actually get a girl to verbally seal the agreement but she still invites me round so I guess we are almost there.

She sort of invited herself to take me shopping for a new bed on Friday and then while we were watching a film trailer she suggested going to the cinema and going out clubbing on Friday.

My original thoughts were to take her out cubbing, she can do the full on stripper dance and it would be good fun. I am thinking we would both be helping each other pick up and then if we are still together at the end of the night we can hook up? But I dont know what she is planning when she suggested it.

Because I know when she gets drunk she is going to be super horny and she is the hottest girl I have ever slept with so it will just take one alpha confident guy to hit on her and whisper you look fucking sexy in her ear and she will be DTF. (Nice thought that there will be girls like this out this weekend!)

But even though I have slept with her once I still feel we have unfinished business as I actually want to be the one to give her the most amazing sex and orgasm. I usually use clubs to set up day 2s so get numbers and only occasionally SNL. But its different for a girl and I know I would be totally jealous to see her grinding on some other guy.

Option 1: Is it worth taking her out to pick up or am I risking being the guy that takes the girl out had a fun night but doesnt take her home?

Option 2: Take her out somewhere more intimate and date like and have fun seducing the hell out of her?

I have to call her tonight, what option should I suggest or is there a 3rd option I have overlooked?

Dude you're over-analyzing this shit way too much!!! Calm down a little bit..instead of asking always other people what is best to do..do what you think is best and learn from your mistakes. This is a common mistake of LMR..if you get LMR..you don't try to get her aroused so she wants to have sex. That shit is probably not going to happen. You get LMR for multiple reasons but one is because the woman thinks you will not stick around and she's afraid if she's opening to you that you will leave. There is no point of arousing her because this is not a matter of being aroused. This response is hired-wired in her brain. Don't focus on the body but on the psychological part (brain). It's way too long to explain what you shoud've done..just read Mystery's 5 ways of overcoming LMR..the one that says: "you hijacked my brain". That is what you shoud've done. Now it would be good to stop asking so many questions and go and do your own thing! Peace out!

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The options are abundant. I dont know why you limited yourself to just 2!

A girl wants a man who knows what he wants. So when you call her, dont fiddle around with the options... have your mind set on one, or at most 2. Then when you call her, tell her 'ok this is whats happening tonight'... or just ask, So, are you up for laughs or something a bit more adventurous?

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