Hey guys,

I need some advice regarding my situation:

Girl I met last year texts me 3 weeks after she broke up with her X (no more feelings she said), I did my thing, ended up going out on 3-4 dates with her, all good, kiss closed on the 3rd date, she opened up emotionally, told me some stuff she wouldn't normally say casually (family issues, health, etc), even met her family (they're close).

A day after k-close we're driving and she tells me she is confused, she felt like she needed some time to get her sh*t together (health related moodiness, time alone for herself after LTR). I told her I'm in a similar situation and agreed (ended LTR 2 months ago, my ex and I are friends with benefits now - she does not know about this).

She told that all she can do now is to offer her friendship, which I don't like, as I connected with her too well to become a friend. I assure she is not dating anyone else.

What should my next step be? Would like to turn things extremely sexual and pursue her.

Sorry if this is a newbie question, I am still pursuing other girls, but I feel this one is a keeper. I can't stand the idea of befriending her (unless this means getting to know her and then LTR)

Then get in sexual mode. Amp up the vibe, clearly let her understand you plan to fuck her.

If she's not down, tip your ass down the yellow brick road.....

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tried doing this verbally (told her to keep her neck covered if she wants me to behave next time we meet as "friends"). she told that's flattering but I have to "understand her". should I kino or maybe try a jealousy plot (talk about other women)?

Maybe you did 'say' that, big fucking deal, you obviously didn't live up to it.
Quit talking, and start doing.

It took you three dates to kiss her, how long before you try to fuck her? A month? A year?

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This happens all the time and there is nothing you can do about it. Girls will be girls.

Remain non needy and chase other girls. If she gets in touch then you know there is another chance

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That's the source of all your problems.

She's just out of a relationship, she doesn't need to dive right into another, I bet she was looking for some sex, no strings attached. She is fucking another guy.

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That's what I'm looking for too and I've made my intentions clear since the beginning.

Stop trying to get her to verbally agree. And stop sending verbal hints. The proof of the pudding is in the eating.

You should be paying attention to her body language rather than what she says.

Suggest going out somewhere where there is a chance where you can escalate, ideally at your place OR somewhere close to your place. Escalate, judge her body language, and figure out whether or not she wants to continue or isn't interested.

I'd also suggest that you be less invested - she's already said she's got "issues". I have a feeling that the reason you think she's a keeper is more because you haven't managed to quite pin her down as yet and the whole "scarcity" thing is coming into play.

You've nailed it man! Thank you for opening my eyes! It's funny how we get so caught up and miss the obvious sometimes.

maybe she needs time to get her head on strait
and you will wind up as friend (maybe with benefits) or rebound guy

I think that your best bet will be to tell her "I want this ..." and if she doesn't want the same thing get away from her

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I agree with ther others, never verbalise anything to a woman, and especially, never pay attention to her words, but her BODY LANGUAGE. Her body language and actions do not lie, but her female prowess will. Women are ruthless by nature.

Also, your scarcity exemplifies your beta male aura. Read, learn and EXECUTE. Sarge more women, become the kind of man, that would have taken action, so that in the future when you are in a similar situation, you won't fuck up.

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She went all cold on me, tried texting her after 4 days, cold responses.

Any ideas on how to reignite? I've watched a video in which they talked about creating emotional sparks and drama to attract women emotionally (an example would be telling her that you do not ever want to open-up again as a girl you liked hurt you, so basically talking to her as friend about another girl and your emotions).

Any tips and tricks?

Go cold on her, she's not the only pussy out there.

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That's just pseudo psychological bullshit. Yes women like emotional highs, but from guys they like, or want to fuck.

MOVE ON

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