Hi guys,

Long story short, I have a MAJOR case of oneitis! Have been friendzoned by this amazing girl, and I've fallen for her, BIG time...

Anyway, whenever I've tried to kiss her in the past, I got a resounding no, so obviously didn't force it! BUT recently, I sense that she may be "wavering" a little bit. Instead of a flat out NO, she now says stuff like:

"Maybe if you didn't have feelings for me, it (kissing) might happen. But I'm scared of the consequences, what comes next, it won't be the same, etc..."

This is a pretty "complicated" situation, for reasons I won't go into now. Maybe I'm just telling myself what I want to hear, but I feel she IS tempted by getting more physical (even just kissing), but that she's just too scared of the "consequences"...

What do you think, fellas?

I REALLY don't want to give up on this one! Oneitis or not, she's amazing!

Any help & advice would be much appreciated!

Cheers!

Game well!

Stringfellow

So what has this one-itus done for you so far? Its not getting you the girl. In fact its keeping her wall up around you. She is seeing your personality as a relationship guy and at the moment, or if ever, that's not what she wants from you. She's giving you a hint. Seduce her by being fun and outgoing and not by being the guy to build a future with. Don't be afraid to be attractive to other women and seduce other women while not pursuing relationships with them. That will make you more attractive to her.

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She's been honest with you and she's told you what you need to do. She doesn't want a guy that has no other options and that she thinks wants something serious right away. So stop being that guy. Best thing you can do is continue to talk to this girl and talk to other girls. If she sees you with other girls or if she knows you are going out with another girl or girls, she'll automatically get the notion that you are no longer the clingy type. Then you can get her out and escalate. But you need to stop treating her like a princess. If you think you can romance your way out of this and that she just has to fall for you because she's so special you are sadly mistaken.

Cheers for the feedback, guys!

I'm working on having other options, as this is something that I find difficult to do.

I'm well aware that I need to improve my overall game. I would LOVE to go out & get other options! But my game isn't good enough for the moment, so it's easier said than done...

Thanks again!

One of the most destructive things a man can do in relationship to hooking up with a girl is to think too much of her, like when guys put the girl up on a pedestal and think shit like “She might be THE ONE” or “WOW she’s hot I would do anything to be with her”."I REALLY don't want to give up on this one! Oneitis or not, she's amazing!"

Slow your roll Bro. Don’t give any more attention than you would give a girl you’d find a 5/6.

Ask yourself would I do this shit for a 6? If not then don’t do it for her either. Try not to go too much out of you way to impress her, this way you will insure that you won’t go overboard or act like a fucking lap dog.

How much shit do you do for her?
How much do you complement her?
How quickly do your answer her calls/messages?
How much do you bore the shit outta your buddies talking about her?
When is the last time you paid attention through a whole movie without staring at your phone?

Slap yourself in the forehead six or eight times, and get the FACT.

SHE-IS-NOT-FUCKING-SPECIAL!

I get she's hot, fuck they all are, every woman is beautiful in her own unique way. Sometimes it just takes the right amount of alcohol to see it.

When this is over and you bang her like any slut you've banged in the past, you can say; "WHEW! I just had a near-oneitis experience."

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HAHA!

Thanks Heywood! That was excellent! You're absolutely right!

Just as a (pretty important) aside:

1. This girl & myself have almost identical physical disabilities. She is dead against a relationship with ANY disabled guy...

2. She's met my family & stayed with me at my mum's place for a week in the summer, despite already knowing how I felt (and still feel) about her.

3. She's slept in my bed more than once, but has refused to let me kiss her. I do moderate kino & she doesn't push me away, but sometimes says it feels "weird" or whatever...

Would another kiss attempt be unacceptable? An invasion of personal space, or disrespectful, or whatever?

Thoughts?

What disability are we talking about that you both have?

How many girls have you approached and opened in the last month? Don't say you are trying if you aren't approaching. And saying "you aren't ready" is a bullshit excuse. You'll never be ready unless you get the balls to start.

Wow OP, you leave out some important details. Your original post isn't a tricky situation. The stuff you added after the fact is.

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Guys,

Yeah, I tried to give you a more "succinct" rundown of the situation. But in doing so, I guess I DID leave out a few fairly significant details! Haha!

I have Cerebral Palsy. I'm not 100% sure of her exact handicap, but I think it's almost identical, albeit in a milder form (I walk with 2 canes, she doesn't).

Another "big" factor is that I USED to be her teacher! She's French, I'm English, and I used to be her university teacher. But no rules were broken! I contacted her AFTER I'd finished teaching her class. And I'm no longer in that job anyway, so it's all good...

Whenever I've tried to do a kind of "freeze out", even for a week or whatever, she always comes back. And one time, when I literally told her I couldn't JUST be her "friend", she started crying, and she basically won't LET ME go, even though I probably SHOULD walk away... (pun intended!)

She's coming over to my place the day after tomorrow, in the afternoon (the only time she's free, school etc).

Do I attempt another kiss?

I see this as an (almost) impossible challenge now! But I'm up for it! What would you advise me to do?

Cheers guys!

Your sexy junk is missing?
Pay attention to what she does, NOT what she fucking says!
unless she's your cousin, it's because she IS attracted to you.
You were in SAME the bed with her? This is or should be a WTFmoment but regrettably, I've seen it many times, then get asked -"Why didn't I get laid?"-
NO.

Stop being sexually retarded.

99.9% of the time you try, a woman will NOT be offended for making sexual advances, 99.9% of the time you don't try she will be left wondering "Why? I am not attractive?"

The reason you don't try is almost entirely low self esteem, and the ensuing belief that women would not be interested in your advances.

This fear is totally unfounded.

Why doesn't she make advances? It's not her fucking job! It's YOURS.

I feel as though it's not like this girl is swimming in dick, so at least you'll get other opportunity's.

Don't fucking blow them.

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Tell her you are suspect that she is a horrible kisser.

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Haha! Cheers! I'm gonna work on it!