Hi,

after recovering myself I started dating anew. I met an American Ex-Pat of my age (36) online who works for theaters, travelling the length and breadth of Middle Europe.

The first date was OK. Not an instant success but intriguing. She had rescheduled two dates because of her work and always asked for a new one. I know from personal experience that rehearsals etc. are not in your control and that it wasn't a lack of effort on her part. So we met for lunch (as she mainly works in the afternoon to evening), talked for 2 hours, she invited me and paid for us both.

Usually I would see it as a positive sign, but as I've dated US women before and blundered when I split the bill instead of inviting her, I was a little bit unsure what happened here. On the other hand she asked for another date (this time for the evening) on Monday.

This is the good part. What makes me uncomfortable is that she is no texter at all. When we met online (in the middle of the night) she was a little bit more talkative but no chance via SPAM or SMS. I texted her after the date and never got a reply. I don't think this is due to her being fed up, but rather a trait.

So what could I do with a woman with whom it is difficult to arrange a date, that isn't really open to texting and that is from a different culture? Simply be myself and let the chips fall? This is what I am doing at the moment but I'd like to prevent dropping a brick.

And in a nutshell: How can I bolt down the Monday date? Usually I'd phone but with irregular work hours and all I don't want to burst into a rehearsal.

Cheers.