So I've learny by now that if you get a chance, take it. That applies to both approaching a girl and getting sex because there are so many reasons that chance can vanish without explanation or expectation.
Has anyone any experience of witholding sex from a girl who is giving it up? I wonder what that does. I've got closer to a girl from work I like and we said we'd meet for a drink. I'm pretty sure it's on from what she's said.

however, I just don't feel like sex today, after a rough night last night. You know how you feel after a bad 'self harm' session? No passion left? That's kinda how I feel today.Sucks because I've known this girl for a while and have been really looking forward to this potentially happening. I've figured that maybe I can use it to my advantage though. Rather than postponing, I could go anyway, kiss her (I'm in the mood for that, just not sex) but then withhold actual sex even if she is wants it. Would that work to my advantage do you reckon? Or would I just be risking her going all weird and changing her mind about it all? Logic tells me it is a good plan but logic don't work wit girls always. Would you just bang her/ postpone it?

Don’t say you’re not in the mood, this will make her feel like it was something she did wrong. Instead do the 2 steps forward, 1 step blame. Keep blaming her for making you like her once you guys start to get into the seduction phase. You can keep doing this and just eventually not have sex with her.

Make out with her for a bit, then pull away and say “we can’t do this, seriously knock it off, quit making me like you so much” Then go back to kissing her and escalating.

Then pull away again and say, “what did I just say? seriously quit being so fvcking cute.” Then go back to kissing her.

This way you spike a ton of sexual tension, and eventually you can just pull away and leave. But this will also be reassuring to her that you are actually into her, instead of making her feel like she messed up and lost you.

This will get her all hot and bothered and thinking about you while you guys aren’t together. Which will definitely have her in the mood for the next time you’re together.

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