Basically there's this girl in my social circle , we get on great and I'm constantly joking and having fun with her. Shes told me she see's me as a friend and nothing more yet each time we are drunk she wants to make out with me . It's like shes a different person when drunk . She is always wanting to hang out with me just the two of us and all through those interactions I get constant mixed signals . She's told the other girls in the group she sees me as a friend and that I'm to old for her as there's a few years between us but when its just me and her she sends a completely different vibe .

I cant figure out if she does like me but is worried by the age gap or if she's playing me cause she like o have me around . But on recent nights out she got upset when other girls where chatting to me . We are going out in a few days time and I'm thinking ill just call her on it and ask whats so different when shes just with me and (or) drunk ? . She is naturally a but shy and slightly socially awkward so I'm not sure if her resistance is down to inexperience or what the fucks going on .

Any one any thoughts on this ?

I would highly suggest not doing this. This would be using logic - women do not respond to this.

She wants to make out with you when she's had a drink - you're going out with her in a few days - why not make out with her and escalate. It could be that like many people, when she drinks her true feelings come out and she wants to get with you but is too reserved in other moments.

Also it's possible that she is saying she sees you as a friend because from your post I'm not seeing anywhere where you have tried to lead interactions with her physically. So she could be pre-empting a rejection by you with the 'friends' comment as women are terrified of rejection.

Thanks for the reply

I have been leading the interaction physically but when i go further than light kino she clams up , again its another thing she like to have on her terms . i really like this girl but I'm not prepared to be strung along and have this drag out just because she thinks I'm funny and likes hanging out with me 'as a friend' . I guess what I'm looking for at his stage is that I want to find out how genuine she is . Shes telling me one thing and acting one way when drunk and being different when sober . That was why I was just thinking of calling her on it . I guessed then I'd know and if she wasn't interested I'd move on but if she was then It'd lead to sex / possible gf

I feel for ya, you're in between the friendzone and the non friendzone depending on if this girl is drinking or not.

Re: calling her out, a woman will never lay it out there and reply to a callout with "Thanks for asking me to clear this up. Here's where I stand: You see I am into you when I'm drunk I want to get with you at those moments.... when sober I feel you are more of a friend, as a matter of fact I don't want to ruin our friendship and I am confused and don't know what to do."

The effect of a callout would likely be sapping 100% of any attraction she may have felt prior to the callout.

If escalating isn't working when you're out drinking w/ her:

- Game other girls and let her see you charming the pants off of them. This will drive her nuts and likely make her chase harder.

- Be totally & completely unaffected by her. Don't show a girl you are affected by her dismissals or she will walk. It's like "oh well her loss" you're thinking in your mind. Make it something that is humorous to you.

- Start talking to her like she's one of your bros. "Damn did you see that girl." She will quite possibly reply with a question asking why you don't say that about her.

Are you kidding mate? She clearly likes you. Man up.

When did it become cool for men to overthink things? Do you think the great men of history would be bothering with this nonsense? "Oh she said this" "she texted me that" - who gives a shit? You should be too busy with other things to worry about nonsense like this. Her behaviour is just a girl being a girl.

Why are you considering calling her on it? All you signal to her is that you don't 'get it' and thus, not many women are into you. You even mention that she is shy and doesn't know how to express her interest. Want to know for sure? Man up and kiss her. Anything other than that is mental masturbation and a waste of time.

Good luck
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She’s probably just naturally a tease. The best way to handle these situations is to let her see that you are the type of guy that women want. Going out with her in a group and letting her see you talking up other girls is going to spike her jealousy level, and after a bit she’s going to start seeing you as much more than “just a friend.” She’s going to start seeing you for the sexual being that you are, and this will spike attraction in her. Then and only then do you try and make her fall for you. Tease her back. Do some push-pull interactions with her after she’s seen you with some other women.

if you do this right, IT WILL SKYROCKET HER ATTRACTION FOR YOU.

There’s nothing more effective than teasing a tease. (not to mention how much fvcking fun it is)

Don’t purposely try to make her jelous, just go out and be the action taking badass who loves talking to cute women. This alone will be enough to get her all hot and bothered.

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