Hi guys,

Need some tips about this one. I'm quite stuck in a confused situation and would appreciate some advice. I apologize in advance for the long text but i'll try to stick to the important stuff I know this can sound like a case of oneitis but I assure you it's not. I work on organizing parties for international students. I have as many girls as I want and after all this, I met with HB8s, 9s and 10s almost every day but none of them was interesting enough like this girl below.

First meeting:

Booked a trip to Ukraine since the Hrivna is quite cheap at the moment and asked some people on VK for tips on what to do in the city.
One girl was quite friendly and said she'll think about something. The next day she told me she had tickets for us to go to one of the best clubs in the city. This was 20 days away from my trip. After that we talked daily on SPAM for more than 8 hours a night. At one point, I asked her to meet up for a date (normal, not club) and she said it was nice to hear that. I told her I don't know the place and I acn't speak Russian or even read cyrillic so I will do research. She said not to do anything and will handle everything herself. She was even posting a countdown on her VK wall till the day I get to her city.

We met 5 hours after I arrived at the city. She showed up with a bottle of Gin, that I know she spent 1/4 of her monthly salary on. We drank, went to a pub. Drank some more. Made out at the pub. Went back to my place and f-closed. I went to sleep after some minutes due to long trip and alcohol, and she woke me up after half an hour to fuck again.

Second Day:

We go to a club with her brother. Club was empty but we went dancing on the dancefloor, leaving her brother alone on the table and were making out on the dancefloor for half an hour. After that she got pretty wasted and when we went out of the club, I offered to take her to a taxi and get her back to her place so she is safe (was too wasted to ask her to come home). She refused and started walking away. I walked with her and some other people offered her help and refused. Then she ran away. I asked a taxi driver who was parked on the way and said she'll be safe as these things happen all the time and rape is unheard of in that city so I went home.

Third Day:

She calls me at 8am. And comes to my place and apologizes. I say it's okay; shit happens and she keeps on saying it's not okay. I told her I won't yell at her; it's not my style but with time I can forgive. She said it's not right; went face to the wall and was saying how embarrassed she was. We fucked again and she kept on telling me how embarrassed she was because she liked me. After some hours of talking, she went to work and wrote to me that she needed some time to think.

Sticking Point:

For two days I only knew she was doing okay. Then she called me and I asked her to meet for breakfast the day after and she agreed. She said she feels we are already in a relationship and she is scared. I said it was never my intention to ask her hand for marriage by the end of my stay so things can go slow. That night we went on a normal date where I walked her home and kissed under her apartment.

The day after she came to me and said that she liked me but she felt i was giving her too much choice. And that I have too much regrets because I said a lot of sorry (in my country we use sorry to mean pardon me or let me pass or just call someone's attention); That a woman can never make decision and it has to be a man to do it. So I grabbed her, kissed her again and fucked that night.

Then she turned weird again saying we could be just good friends. And I said fuck it. I really like her but there are other girls in the world.

When I got back home, I didn't write to her that much. Just basic stuff like good morning and how are you?. After 5 days she offered to call me on SPAM and I said okay. And I started negging her and she asked me why I was not so confident when I was visiting her and on SPAM it's different. And I explained to her that I couldn't even read the alphabet in her country; let alone play hero and try to take us somewhere. We had a nice chat. Two days later she wrote to me that she missed me and she told me what she liked about sex and teased each other. And the next day she said how she misses our SPAM calls. I told her that I will honor her with my time again when she starts begging for it and she did

She said that it was her bad that she didn't give me time to settle down before coming to stupid conclusions. And that it was just part of her telling her it should be guy deciding everything so she lost motivation to meet. And that she only realized how stupid it was. Yesterday, I even asked her if she's okay (felt a bit cold) and she said she wants to keep some distance now because she wants to see how it goes when I visit again. And said something like "relationships cooked slowly taste better; like food. that other person becomes very important in your life; maybe becomes all your life" At the same time she keeps teasing that she will find the perfect girl for me in her city. When I called her out on it, she said she was just making a joke. Another time she told me we are both tigers in bed. Tigers can't eat each other. They need fresh meat to enjoy themselves. I laughed it off saying she can sneak on her grandmother whilst she is asleep as she probably is not a tiger in bed. But I still don't understand the meanings of her comments.

I will be visiting her city again in few weeks (business reasons) and she is already offering that we go to X Y and Z places. This time I also have experience of the place so I will be taking more lead as I usually do.

My dilemma is:

- Is this girl really interested? Is she playing? Or just confused? (I think she's just confused that's why I continue to pursue her)
- How to avoid her feeling the same way as before? Inevitably, I will not be able to survive completely on my own in her city as I won't learn Ukrainian in 4 weeks. Usually in places where I live, I can impress girls by taking them to the best spots of a city; I have connections with a lot of clubs and entertainment venues, etc... Here I'll be like a fish out of the water

Thanks in advance!