I qualifying this as a day-2.

I haven't seen my ex in like 6 years, but I saw her on FB and she was still looking good after having a kid, so I hit her up. I messaged her right after I broke up with my most recent ex, and we caught up. Her BF died about 3 months prior, it was some fucked up stuff and I actually felt bad for her, so I gave her a month…

Then I hit her up again like a week ago and suggested we get drinks sometime to which she agreed…

Last night she messaged me asking what I was doing this weekend. I said I was busy most of the week and had plans Sat night but I only had ideas for what I was doing Friday and she could join. She agreed.

I'm guessing she hasn't had sex in a while and is just now getting over the guy enough to open herself up to it again, because my buddy said that she has messaged him recently and he thinks she's indicating interest. I know after we broke up, I still fucked her like 3 or 4 times, and she was having sex with other guys too, so she at least used to be pretty damn DTF.

I've never tried to get with an Ex before, so I've got some questions:
1.) If my buddy lays her on Wed, do you think that will interfere with my chances of laying her on Friday?
2.) Any tips for suggesting a threesome or group sex? (I told my buddy he should try getting a date for Friday night too and we should all do go out together)
3.) I lost my virginity to this girl, and I wasn't that great in bed back then, especially relative to now, which is part of the reason I want to do this - redemption baby! I was actually thinking about mentioning that to a degree (like comparing me now to then) or would that be counterproductive?
4.) And this goes back to 3… Should I play catch up a little but mainly create a fun/sexy SPAM and treat this purely as a day-2 or would using our history be an advantage?

I think the last thing she needs right now is have an ex use her as a fuckbuddy.

She's got a kid and a dead husband. Are you human?
Wow. I'm making it my life's work not to have a son that thinks like you.

^ your son will probably be a pussy bitch too. lol


Anyway,

1) Your buddy laying her on Wed will definitely make it more difficult for you to lay her..

2) If you really wanna 3 way. Go out with her first. Invite you buddy to meet up half way through the night. Suggest a competition to see who is the better kisser. When you get her home, lead her into it.

3) I wouldn't mention comparing the now and then, unless you are certain she will agree. This is already on her mind anyway.

4) Yeah take her out like its just a catch up, if you used to vibe then you will quickly reconnect with the vibe. Show her you are still fun/ cool/ whatever . Make sure to keep a sexual presence. It shouldn't be too hard since you already smashed.


And as for all the guys on here who say don't fuck a girl because of this and that and morals and humanity. Fuck them. When it comes down to it, we are humans with a desire/need to fuck no matter what we have been through or where we are going. If it is consensual then it is a go!

I'm sure you'll have a marvelous daughter.
Man, did you guys not listen to loveline when you were younger? This generation of "bros" SMH

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I agree man. She's still a woman and she still has sexual desires… I don't know how that makes me any less of a person that I'm willing to cater to those desires… I'm not calling her a bitch, or degrading her in any way. I respect her sexuality and her strength for being ready to move on.
I was more thinking along the lines that if she's attracted to my friend and to me, then maybe she'd want us both at the same time… I didn't think that was a bad thing. I bet if you met me IRL, you'd change your tune. I'm a sexually open guy, but I believe I'm also a really good person. I wouldn't have even thought about touching her if she was still married (I don't do the home wrecker thing), I do a lot of volunteer work, I'm loyal in a relationship, I'm a good friend, etc. etc. Truthfully, with my career goals and life passions, your son would do very well to think like me.
But back to the actual topic.

I ended up texting her yesterday (which is why I KNOW about these desires now).

For 3. I made a light mention that I may have learned a couple things over the years since, but didn't take the comparison any further than that.

For 4. I led the conversation to asking her about what she remembers from our past and she brought up a sexual encounter. I dug into that a little more and asked if she was still as freaky today as she was in the past. She said that she was, but I might have blown her out (at least for the night)…

I was trying to dig for details on her more recent sexual fantasies and she stopped responding. I didn't multi-text or anything beta like that, so I'm hoping I can just text her tomorrow and shift focus on to what she might want to do when we meet up Friday. I'm thinking I'll just keep it light, maybe talking about dancing together and stuff like that and then kino escalate like crazy when we physically meet.

I'm a decent dancer. In the past I've been able to pull girls without talking simply by dancing with them. (I once had a lay at a lingerie party in a back room by simply eye fucking this girl that looked at me when I walked into the party, I stripped to my underwear in front of her - i.e. lingerie party - and then walked straight over to her and she started grinding on me. Her pussy might as well been a grenade, I started kinoing like that thing was about to explode! Next thing I know I'm searching the party for my pants to find a condom, I bum one off this other guy and she gets on top of me and starts riding me, but I forgot to close the door on the way in… her friends caught us and freaked the fuck out! haha, I'm just standing there, dick hanging out with the condom still on it in front of all three, I joked that they should join then the dude who's bed I was on caught me too, he started saying shit like "I've killed people for less than this!" I just laughed and left. Fortunately this fine brunette was leaving another party across the street as I was leaving - still in my underwear btw - and she asked what I was doing, I explained the story and she thought it was hilarious… she joined me for some late night pizza and a night cap )

whats with all the talk about kids?

Anyway, we are pick up artists, not monks. I swear if we never slept with a woman that was married, had a boyfriend, had kids, was sad, was on her period, blah blah blah we would never get laid. AS LONG AS IT IS CONSENSUAL it is cool. I simply don't have the time to worry about some ladies dead ex before I bring her to orgasm.

And fuck loveline.

Also, who gets married anymore? I like to think this generation of bros realizes marriage is a weak institution created on the concept that God has ordained two people to be monogamous forever. We are animals.

Haha, I'm a more quality over quantity guy, it allows me to be selective, which I think gives me a mental advantage in my game, I'll disqualify a girl for being in a relationship. Not gonna lie though, candy canes aren't that bad haha

But in all seriousness, I asked for advice, not permission… if you don't agree with it RiRi, move on… you know I wasn't asking if I should do it or not, I was asking for tips on how to do it… and now this thread has been going in the wrong direction.

If you've got tips, I'm all ears. I figured at least a few of you had to have seen some similar circumstances before…

My highest priority is trying to figure out how to gauge where I stand at this very moment in regards to the lack of response to my last text. Should I keep pushing the sexual talk, or should I maybe back down a little and save it for the physical meet? (I'm thinking back down and save it, because I think there is a really good chance I could make have her as an awesome FWB - I'm new to the area, so I think it could improve my game and take any desperation edge I might have off by knowing I always have this for an easy booty call in my back pocket, i.e. why I'm giving this particular girl some importance)

I had an awesome sext session last night with another girl though, who is recently out of a relationship, told me how horny she was, and said she wan't looking for anything serious and was giving me HUGE IOIs… if I can work this out so that I have 2 FBs, then I'll be gold going into this year that I have to spend in this hell hole of a town.

Update: I texted her again today… I accomplished something pretty major this morning and opened today with it (we had spoken about me prepping for it on FB in the past). I guess ya'll would consider that DHV'ing… I did one more DHV text about another, yet significantly smaller, success I just had afterwards, more humorously, and transitioned it into how excited I was and how I felt like dancing this weekend with her. (Like I was planning in the previous post).

She keeps responding with one word texts though… To the first one she just sad "congrats )", then to the second she said "hahah" , and then to the third about finding a place to dance friday night, she just said "okayy"… what is this indicating?… maybe she was just busy, but I swear to god, if she flakes on me, I'm literally going to flip shit… I just turned down baseball tickets and a date literally offered to me by a nurse, showing me insane IOIs (if the tickets aren't enough of an indicator for you), because I'm banking on this being a FWB success…

QUESTION: Any particular way you guys handle one-word texts? I simply stopped texting her.

I'm going out with the other potential FB next week. I just want to see my master plan come to fruition.

I handle the one word texts by calling

Everything you've said so far is I, I, I, ME, ME, ME. I WANT. I WANT. So her boyfriend died recently and all you can think about is your fucking dick? You are one sick fuck. She hasn't had sex for 3 or more months so she'll be fucking desperate for it will she? You dudes on here are such useless, fucking assholes and have no fucking clue about girls. What's with the if my mate lays her on Wednesday what are my chances for Friday you sick weirdo. No wonder you are getting one word texts from her. It's all about your ego and your fucking dick and she has seen right through you you heartless fucking little cunt. I hope she tells you to go hang yourself. It's what you fucking deserve you cold hearted, nasty little freak.

Someone's got their panties in a bunch

Last update on this one:

I met her earlier tonight. It was a good time, but we didn't hook up and I'm not trying to with her anymore (She seems confused and I'm not going to be the one to add to that)… thanks for the advice though Alphabro. I did end up calling her to set up the date btw.

Cool man! it's a great attitude to find some value in your failures. You didn't specifically say it, but i'm sure you realized how easy it was to set up a date over the phone rather than text.