Several weeks ago I met a woman who's 31 years-old and has a nursing occupation. She sat down at the same table, in the outside area of a pub, and we talking and joked around before I grabbed her number. Then she went back inside to find her friends. She's definitely cute enough to bang, and I liked her easy-going and bubbly personality too.
We continued texting with the same vibe, before organising the day-two for last Sunday night. We met at a local bar venue, sat closely beside each other, did the typical getting-to-know-you discussion (while I integrated my typical expression of personality and humour). I went for the make-out eventually, to which she blatantly declined. Not feeling the same vibe?
This created a surprisingly deep discussion about the situation, man-to-woman psychology and such topics (I already told her I run a coaching service helping men with their confidence with women and such - see link in signature). I would usually try to avoid going into logical mode, for obviously reasons - but sometimes I don't mind relating on this level with smart women, as I think it helps demonstrate I'm not completely thoughtless or detached from reality (like other men she might meet).
Apparently she liked my company, always smiling and laughing without wanting to leave, but thought I was very "forward" and wasn't comfortable with the physicality aspect yet. Nevertheless, we left on good terms and said we'd catch up again. Some people just need a bit more time.
Still with me?
Okay, below is the text message I received a few days later. This could say a lot about my general mindset on day-twos, and why any kind of "day-three" potential usually doesn't eventuate from them (whether or not there was any kissing involved). I've never received a message this big from anyone, let alone a woman going out of her way to provide detailed feedback. I have my own thoughts about how to interpret this, but I'm interested to know what other people think.
Hey there, just letting u know I probably won't be seeing u again. There were moments which I enjoyed about our date, such as some of the intellectual conversations. However, I am more inclined to enjoy and feel a connection (or a vibe as u call it) if I am treated like an equal..... breaking ur concept of male and female interaction.
Also it definitely seemed that u weren't there to get to know who I was as a person. More focused on using ur strategies on getting sexual gratification, trying to prove something to urself and feel good about urself. Also just a word of advice if I had been damaged in the past u went about questioning that topic quite forcefully and extremely uncomfortably..... Ps I haven't been damaged in any way to make me uncomfortable by sexually advances. I am very intune with my own sexuality, I just don't feel the need to put in people's faces, i let it shine by itself.
I didn't feel an instant sexual attracted to u, and I wanted to see if it would pop up before jading my thoughts with physical contact. But instead u proceeded to convince me I was a prude or following others stereotypical values.... In a relationship, especially in the beginning of a relationship, u shouldn't be trying to change someone's opinion or values, which is why I understand Sunday night was the way u like to conduct urself and show ur values..... But they aren't for me... And I don't find them attractive. Sorry if I'm being blunt but I know u appreciate being upfront and truthful. Enjoy ur quest for a lady. 
CHAT