To make a long story short i messaged this girl on facebook for a few days. She is very cute, big boobs, nice face, ect. We talk for a few days on facebook, eventually she gives me her number. Soon we are texting. Soon after that we are talking on the phone. Next thing u know were are talking about what we like to do in bed, we are sending semi nude pictures to each other. She lives about an hour away so one day she text me saying she wants to meet up at this bar in my area on a Saturday. I agree

So Saturday comes around and we meet up at the bar. She brings a friend i bring a friend. We see each other for the first time in real life, we exchange hugs, i spin her around to check her out. She looks great. We talk and drink for about 30 minutes. I am whispering in her ear, she is laughing having a good time. She even holds my hand underneath the table. It was cute. Soon we take shots and start dancing. We are grinding, dancing for a while then she eventually looks me in the eyes. I kiss her on the dance floor. We continue dancing.

She eventually tells me that she doesn't like public displays of affection. Kinda strange cus holding hands is a PDA, i guess its the kissing at the bar part. So we dance some more, she keeps holding my hand. Eventually i have to go home so i go upto her, kiss her and say im leaving. Everything seems alright.

I text her the next day saying it was great seeing her. No response. I end up texting her again a day later. She replies the next day saying that she felt "uncomfortable Saturday and that i was too aggressive." She said that she doesn't "hate me" but needs "space." This is very strange coming from a girl who was talking about hoe she likes to be tied up, man handled, and drilled doggy style. I apologized for being a aggressive but then explained that she was so cute that i had to kiss her when the opportunity arose.

Thoughts on how this went and thoughts on what i should do next would be appreciated? I already am talking to other girls. I am thinking about giving her some space then texting her in two weeks if she hasn't texted me yet.

Just play it cool, back off and let her come to you. You kissed her and left, not as if you started telling her about how you wanted to bend her over and take her home then got pissed that she didn't go with you.

She just doesn't want to come across as too easy and probably realised she was all in when you were holding hands, kissing and dancing. She's trying to gain the upper hand and get you hooked on her so she can call the shots and have you coming or going as she feels.

Word makes sense. She was all over me for two weeks with text messages everyday, sending me selfies every other day. Now nothing. I can see that she is trying to gain the upper hand. Any other thoughts on the situation?

"I know what you mean, I don't know what got into us, we couldn't keep out hands off each other. HMU when ever."

And then make it her job to come back to you.

1. Don't apologize for any of the PDA.

2. Don't chase after her. If it's a shit test or if she's trying to get the upper hand a quick text like the one above and then silence will be your best bet.

Anti-slut Defense

Of course she knows that she was the one proposed to meet up and to do all those cuddlings, grindings, holding hands. Now she is afraid she will look like a slut (that's why she mentioned not prefering to publicly show affection).

Give her some space for a while, and meet up with her a normal environment (with friends, in a coffee shop, etc.)

Good advice. I am just gonna let her do her thing and if she gets back to me good, if not too bad for her

give her a strong freezeout. She seems a bit on edge. After a while she may come calling back, if not keep its whatever. Keep racking em up.

I feel so impatient now a days. I just need to go and find a girl who is 100% down from the start and not BSing me like this girl. Maybe she will call me in the future but its been a month since we hung out and nothing so i am not expecting it.

Everything seems pretty well covered here, I just wanna reiterate the point where you apologised for being "too aggressive". There was nothing to apologise for; if she didn't want to kiss you, she wouldn't have, if she didn't wanna grind/hold hands, she wouldn't have. It was just a shit test, she was trying to make out like she didn't enjoy it etc (as another poster said, ASD) all you had to do in my opinion was just keep calm and say "Let's take things slow and meet up for a coffee this week." A coffee is more innocent than a wild night out, a safer environment for her, but you're still showing your intent by suggesting her meeting up with you again.

On a side note I hear you about the impatience, I've always been impatient and hate really long drawn out conversations over text that sometimes encompass 1 message a day, wastes time!

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Then next time she calls or texts just say you haven't seen her in a month and you're not interested in messaging her or being blown off. Move on.

She's probably just using you as a cheap ego boost. Take that away from her and she'll grab at you.

I hardly think she's gonna call him again or text especially after a month has gone by. Sounds like she's attractive and has a million guys face booking her and she's meeting up with the ones she thinks have potential and probably fucking the ones she fancies which isn't you I'm afraid. I guess she's doing what guys do. Have as many on the go as possible. Equality and all that but dude to fucking spin her around the minute you met her for the first time to 'check her out' is just vomit inducing. That is NOT COOL you fucking jerk so repeat after me ... I SHOULD NOT MEET UP WITH GIRLS FOR THE VERY!!!! FIRST TIME AND SPIN THEM AROUND TO CHECK THEM OUT LIKE THEY ARE A PIECE OF FUCKING MEAT. Christ where do you guys learn all this childish shit from?

I got the impression they were texting and calling inbetween this thread and the month since they last seen one another. Isn't his problem that she won't meet up with him and keeps flaking after having kissed him and hung out?

hahaha do you really think that move was that bad? I might have been kinda forward for the first time meeting but after sending sexy pictures to me i thought nothing was off the table ha

Don't listen to this guy. I've seen him berating a guy in another thread like an angry woman.

EDIT: Apparently "he" is an angry woman. You never know these days, there are enough guys out there fighting the cunt patrol's fight for them.

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