So my buddies female friend ( who is at least a 9) blew me off last night in what i thought was a date.

I met this girl just hanging out with friends. Several occasions we will trade a few words but I never really tried picking her up. Partly because I knew she technically had a boyfriend. Her boyfriend is a french model who travels a lot so i figured there realationship was not going to last too much longer. I added her on facebook about two months ago and asked her out with me and my friends who she already knows. I was acting oblivious to the fact that she had a boyfriend. She never told and i never asked. About a week ago my buddy gave me the intel on her relationship. Apparently she was breaking up. Im thinking "great". So i show up to a party about three days later where i knew she was going to be. I get there with a different girl (9+) and leave with her. I know this girl saw me leave with this hottie. Two days later i hit her up on facebook and her attitude was completely different. She was a lot more open to me then before. I used more of a direct game with her over messages and told her i thought she was really cute. I tried to get her to come to a salsa class i go to on monday night but she said she was a horrible dancer. Ill have to convince her somehow to go. So i asked her if i could try to convinve her over some drinks at a really cool bar i know. She agrees, a few messages later she asks if one of her friends can come.... i say sure..... i was going with a few friends too since my buddy was playing jazz at this bar. All is set, she said she will text me whenever she was outside.




As im inside hanging out and listening to the band with my friends, two hours pass when she said she was going to get there. I figured she stood me up and no biggie. Fuck her. But then i see her and her friend walking accross the bar. I walk over and say hi. She acts normal. Not very excited to see me. I try to play it cool but i was a little pissed. She gave me a lame excuse on why she didnt text me on her arrival. She apperently was there for 2 hours. They sat at a both and random people joined them. So i try to brush it off and try to talk. Keep in mind her friend is there and i lost all my friends. Now its just us three... were talking in the patio and she asked if we could sit. I say yes. I sit down and her friends sits next to me. She stays standing....i dont like this. We talk for a bit more and she says shes going to the bathroom. She will meet us at thier table. So im left alone with her friend. We go over to the table which is full of dudes and i sit next to the friend. I intentionally try to leave space between me and friend so that my target can sit next to me when she got back. Nope... she gets to the table and sits aside from her friend and pushes her friend closer to me. She also starts talking to this other guy. After about 15 minutes i just get up and go talk to my buddy who just finished playing his gig. I see my target get up with this guy and go toward the exit. I feel like a total bitch at this moment. I decide to go home and as im walking out they are sitting in the smoaking area chatting. In a booth that faces each other. She doesn't notice me leaving so i turn around and say goodnight. She gave me the " oh, your leaving?" i answer with my back towards her as i was walking away with a yes.

Where did i fuck this up? What could i have done different? Is this over or should i try again at her?

1 - She's not into you.

2 - She's acting dumb / doesn't know. Wants you to chase her or be more specific. (highly unlikely)


Mostly # 1. So might as well tell her. You have nothing to lose. So do it asap. before you have oneitis for this girl.

Thanks dude.... it seemed like she was interested for a moment but now that i think about it she didnt even give me any kind of indicator of attraction last night. So you recommend just telling her i want something more? Let it rest there?

Try to build more comfort / rapport via texting / talking and get a 1-to-1 hang out to some bar and escalate.

I once read - the social man's article on - the first date Blue Print.

It cannot be more easily explained how and what to do on a date (most of it is common knowledge but helps a lot)

Also read the forums. You'll find a lot of useful stuff how to go about texting / calling


The fact that :
1 - She got a friend along
2 - Did not inform you when she got there
3 - Did not sit next to you

Says it all that her interest levels are pretty low. Think positive and don't over think about it.

If not her someone else. Don't feel rejected if nothing happens. At least you tried.

Good luck mate