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Ok guys I have another question for you: what do you answer when she tells you "I want to know you better first"? It's one of my sticking points...
The best way to counter this is probably to prevent it from happening. To prevent this from happening is to improve on your game. To improve on your game is to reverse the roles of you being the hot girl :p ... where she is the one ripping your clothes off ... not you wanting to rip hers.
- The ideas are:
1) She invest more into the relationship.
- She is qualifying herself way more to you. (She is not entitled to be with you ... while most guys would put her on a pedestal ... Entitlement is defined as how comfortable you are being yourself around her.)
- She is scared that you will pick another girl than her. (She is outcome dependent ... not you.)
- You are screening/comparing her to other possible candidates that you may or may not pick. This is what we call: "you being the Buyer and her being the Seller."
2) You don't demonstrate any boy friend material crap.
- You don't try to demonstrate value. Basically, most guys will try to impress the girl by presenting their resume to her. Either by saying that they have a nice car, that they are loyal and trust worthy, act like a dancing monkey, take her to a nice dinner, they have a high paying job, they have been to exciting places ....
* If you demonstrate boy friend material crap ... she will make you wait for sex :p.
- To yourself from conveying value ... allow for awkward silences and speak slowly and simple (not going into your head to think of something to impress her). This will cause her to speak more in the interaction. To stop yourself from going into your head to look for value to demonstrate... just focus on maintaining eye contact. When she looks into your eyes ... she will notice that you are not going into your head and you will probably be the first guy in her life to not try to convey value.
* So basically when you are interacting with the girl ... chill out, relax, and slow down while you maintain eye contact with the girl. Relax and pause and allow your self to be aroused by her.
** This shit is potent ... Your conversations will be the girl 70% qualifying herself and telling how sexy, handsome, great, charming ... you are ....
3) Man to Woman vs. Friend to Friend
- Criticize your interaction by asking your self "If we were alone in a room with a bed ... would we bang?"
- To have a man to woman interaction basically, have laser eye contact, being physical, and have close proximity (be close to her) ..... as soon as possible! The longer you wait the more awkward it will be to do.
- Basically, when others see you guys interacting ... they will assume that you guys are dating and have already had sex.
- Friend to friend interaction is basically the opposite of the above. No physicality, there is space between you guys like there is an invisible wall ... no sexual tension ... the girl will use you as an emotional tampon ...
It's pretty cool when you can do this ... the girl games you ^_^ and is needy towards you. It's super simple and what can help guys in intermediate purgatory transition to advance level!
Plus it will remove your outcome dependency which will prevent any hesitation to show your intentions to her (specially toward hot girls)!
Really cool stuff!
hahaha ... enjoy!
Donston
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) Thanks man!