So I went on a date with her but I have no idea where I stand with her. I've known this girl for a whIle now and built up a lot of attraction over text with C+F (although I'm not sure how effective texting for attraction is) I asked her out soon after and she agreed, however I said "for banter" just to tone down the seriousness of it however I am concerned that she may have misinterpreted that it was not an actual date. Anyway we went out and we agreed to split the costs. I mainly focused on comfort playing question game and making good conversation throughout with very little attraction. There was very very minimal Kino which was the sticking point. After we went to a shitty film and I told her how shitty I thought the film was which may have been a DLV. Then I dropped her off and hugged her goodbye. I initiated the text on the way home and she thanked me saying it was a laugh. Does that even mean anything? Anyway I continued texting and I think my interest in her was conveyed as she started taking longer replies where after just a few texts later when I suggested a second date, she didn't reply. On Facebook, I continued and she replied the same night but stopped in the morning. Right now we are still continuing a BBM conversation but I am guessing she will stop that very soon too.I might be overanalysing the date with where I went wrong but it was ok but I have no idea where I stand with her right now? And the dynamic of her chasing me is kind of going away. Where can I take this further? How can I proceed to a second date with a chance of her replying?

Call her. If she answers, arrange a second date. If not, delete her number and find someone else. BBM is a horrible way to talk to someone IMO

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I didn't read, just searched your text for "kiss" and didn't find anything. I don't see how you can have a second date if you didn't even kiss her on the first one. If she's on a date with you, chances are she has thought and imagined kissing you a few times already. You have to have that in your head.

Are you sure about that? There are a lot of people who have a rule that they don't kiss on the first date.

I am not all that clued up on PUA stuff but what I do know is if im on a first date I will kiss the damn girl and generally its within an hour or so. I go in and whisper in their ear 'wanna know what I wanna do' then bam. I have never been rejected EVER, even when dates have started off uneventful - things change after that kiss, the girl loosens up so to speak. Generally in the middle of a date is best as that gives you time to kino the hell out of her till end of the night. If you dont fuck her on first then chances are the second date is where things will escalate.

You're right but I didn't escalate on the first date so what is there to do now. Forget about this girl or still go for a second date?

unfortunately you didn't create enough attraction early in the process. This is textbook! I used to do that all the time... which sucks because you get the friend zone at best... a terrible place.

You did good with your initial playful text.. and you got rewarded with a IOI - going on a date. Then , it went wrong... don;t ask to spilt the bill... that shows very little leadership. If you like the girl, just pay! Then, you needed to do some kino really early in the night... in this case... easy... the first one is 2 minutes after she sat in the car... you put your hand on her hand when say "that's so funny"... from there you escalate your kino.. and continuing at the first location. I don;t like dinner dates because you are sitting down and it's really hard to escalate your kino... i usually set up a date where we are both standing. This way you can escalate easy.. touching her a longer time ex 2 sec, 5 secs, 10 secs... you have now made it clear that this is NOT a friend-friend interaction. It is a MAN-WOMAN interaction... If you escalate correctly, you should be able to make out with her at that location... The best way to make out with her is this: you escalate your kino like i said above.. then when she makes an awesome comment, you give here the "half-hug" (or shoulder hug) when saying "that' s so awesome... gimme a hug" ... then later you do the same... this time the full hug "you're awesome, I like you" and you hug her... as you're hugging her .. tell her a secret... meaning whisper in her ear "I Love your energy".. then open the hug slowly.. garb the side of her head gently and then triangular gaze to a kiss. Yes... you are making out with a hot chick! ENJOY!

Now the only thing you can do is stop contacting her entirely. Revisit the project in 6 weeks. Good luck!