I'm honestly in the same situtation this sounds like me to the core. though i do not have as much experience as you but now that i think about it i probably would have hit this wall later, on so reading this and seeing my infield exp. explains alot even though i just started. i'm also trying to figure out to be a sexual threat but, i think you wanna do is go on youtube and whatch RSDfreetour and rsdjulien, and rsdtyler they will help you out with this stuff and have infield videos. as far as the club is concerned just have fun with it and go on dancing with other girls and when they give you the bambi or anime eyes thats pretty much means they're very intuned with you and from what i've seen that's the go but again i say whatch the videos before hand hopefully i helped you as much as you helped me.
Oh and one more thing is try to bring up sex in the convo's in a smooth way of course.