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Hey guys,
Here's the whole situation... There's this girl I met already a year ago at someguys house. Just came in to grab a slice of pizza, didn't really notice her at all, but she did notice me. To cut it short, she was interested but i didn't make a move of any sort at the time.
Just when i was about to, she got back with her ex. Which triggered somekind of obsession from me towards her. I don't know, i'm kind of fucked up guys...It's as if my interest in her peaked after she chose him over me?!
A year passed, but she was always somewhere in the back of my mind, even though I hadn't seen or spoke to her. And just recently, I learned she definitely broke up with her ex for good about 2 months ago. I thought this was my sign so I went ahead and began to speak to her again over Fb.
She was glad i did, she said! She told me she wanted to write to me several times but never did because of the way things ended. Anyways, we chatted over Fb and by text a couple of times, and had one date since then which went pretty well even though i didn't kiss her at the end.
I'd like your advices here guys, I'm clearly in a case of oneitis here... I'd really like this to work out between her and I, I mean she's great in every way and I feel like we connect. But I'm always the one who text first and ask about her...I know I'm the guy so its part of my job, but I'm afraid she'll feel like its not ''a challenge'' anymore so she loses interest or something like that...
What would you? and any idea for a second date? i live in a small town, so there's not much to do
thanks for the help guys
Invite her over; if you think there is not nearly enough comfort for that, just text the following:
"Hey, what are you up to on Tuesday (or whatever day), let's get together again"
If she responds and asks what did you have in mind just say
"How about something low key, maybe this (local bar near you) for a drink or we can order in and split a bottle of wine" or something along those lines. Give her the option, a lot of times they will respond: "either one works" I could tell you to just propose your place which is what I normally do, but most guys will simply not do that even though it works, so this way you ask it in an indirect way.
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