So in short here is the situation. Recently I was set up on a blind date, it went really well, girl is super fun, intelligent, and has a smoking body. 1st date went really well, she invited me back to her place and we made out for a while but she stopped me there. She then texted a few days later that she had a great time and would like to see me again. We have now met up a total of 4 times, still no f close.

The problem is this it is a LDR, she lives 3 hours away. So meeting up is difficult to say the least. She is also very religious which I most certainly am not. On top of this she is very sketchy on texting and calling. She will text back days later, which she says is because she is incredible busy, grad school, work, babysitting etc.

Recently another girl from work has started messaging me. She just started there and has shown serious interest. She is an HB 9.5 and is fresh out of a relationship. She has initiated all contact started with facebooking me, then gave me her number. I recently invited her over to my house and it went really well, she texted me directly after telling me she liked getting to know me better and wanted to see me again. She continues to text me good night and telling me she hoped my day went well and asking what my plans are etc. So far I have kept the texts really playful and have not committed to another hangout even though she suggested a movie at my place.

I feel conflicted now because I do not feel comfortable dating two women especially if I'm going to start banging one. I'm pretty sure I can close the coworker without any real problems. The LDR will be much more difficult. I like them both but feel I real connection with the LDR, but I'm seriously conflicted and unsure what do do which is why I'm posting here. Any advice would be appreciated!

Seriously? She's BABYSITTING, a job that consists of running out the clock, and she is too busy to text you? Bullshit. You've been on 4 dates with her, you should have her attention by now. I wouldn't be surprised if she's "busy" because she's not that into you yet. This is complicated, I can see why you're conflicted.

If you really feel a connection with the LDR, that's probably the direction you need to go. That said, you shouldn't shut down your other option yet. You've only met her once so far? Why not invite her to go out somewhere public, flip the script? You don't HAVE to have sex with her. It's totally okay to want to get to know her better so you can make an informed decision, if she only wants to have sex with you, then that makes your choice easy, right? I don't think you have to decide until sex happens, though some guys will say you can wait until you're committed.

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31 and still figuring it out.

Yes the LDR is a bit tricky because when we are around each other, she is totally into me. It's like I'm the only person on the planet. Once I'm gone though she seems cold but always ends the dates asking if she will see me again. The other girl from work has many options and guys friends so I'm not sure if she is just wanting another obiter or wants more. Also she has a history with older men, which I am, she had a fling with a man 20 years older who was married. It doesn't bother me at all but thought I should add. Both are super busy though with work and both are graduating from college at the end of the summer so time is tight. I'm going down next weekend to see the LDR, she told me I should come Friday so we have more time to spend together. Just really conflicted and would like advice as I have never been in this situation.

Ya seriously shes 2 busy?? Next..your time is more precious than hers... always.

Anyways f-close the co-worker and be done with it. Keep it simple. The LDR isnt worth it. For real.

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Duke

Thanks for the replies, just shitty because really feel connected to LDR so I'm going to have to think about it, but Dukes your answers seem to be spot on. Should I not see the LDR again or try to close her when I see her this next weekend? Also if I don't follow your advice and continue to see LDR how long until coworker loses interest? Like I said she is super hot with lots of options for sure.

I've had a situation where I was seeing an LDR that lives 3 hours away as well and to be honest, I don't think it's worth it either. Just think about it, even if you do eventually f-close her, you said you felt a connection with her so you're probably going to want to date her. That's just how these LDRs are, they say a bunch of things to you to get you to fall for them, but do you really want to drive 3 hours every time to go see her? And then 3 hours back? Not only is it a waste of gas, but a waste of time. As for the co-worker, like Duke said, f-close her and wait until she texts YOU. If she's interested, she will. If not, next...