Here's the situation:

I met this girl. I got her number and we texted pretty regularly over the course of a few weeks. We started playing these really flirty texting game. Leading up to the first date we had been texting each other a lot all day long, every day. Basically, we kept one upping each other in text and eventually discovered that we both are kind of freaky in bed. She likes a man that is very dominant, and I like a girl that's very submissive. When we went out the date went perfect. It was super sexually charged during dinner and afterwards we grabbed a drink. After that, we go back to her place and had some wild animal sex.

Here's where things started to go south. We kept texting each other a lot the following day and the next 2 days after. Finally, I text her asking her a sexual question in the morning. 4 hours later, after no response, I texted her again asking why she was being shy. The next day I still hadn't heard from her, so I sent her another text basically being overly aggressive and saying I was going to punish her for not responding. In context, it's what she's into in bed so I wasn't worried about scaring her at the time.

It's been a couple days and not a word from her. I know this girl really liked me, but I think I might have messed it up by being overly needy texting her a few times in a row or appearing to even be abusive in how I seemed angry with that last text. I was basically giving her at the time what I thought she would respond to.

I don't want to chalk this one up to a complete lost cause. Is there any way to come back from this one? Wait a week or two and text her again? Would apologizing in a few days help or just make me look desperate or weak? We only went on one date, so it's a weird situation. In my experience, most things that start fast, end fast. I really enjoyed hanging out with this girl, so I'd like to keep seeing her. Thanks guys.

Considering the situation the question was not out of order. She was a bit of a trashy hag not to respond to it. Double texting is rarely a good idea; triple, never.

Solution: call her and ask her to grab a coffee. Don't text - call. Don't apologize though. Never apologize in a relationship with a woman, even if it is just a sex-relationship! Then, at the coffee: say something like: "I might have rushed things a bit but hey let's take it a bit slow from here and meet up during the weekend. you up for it?" Make sure to have it sound informal and that it's not a big deal. It might be a big deal to you, because of your feelings, but objectively considered none of this is a big deal. If she makes a big deal out of it, it is because she over-values herself and thinks of herself as some irreplaceable priceless princess. Which also applies in case she doesn't answer the phone. If that is the case; on to the next whore.

Pretty good response. Thanks. It's been a few days since I texted her and dropped the ball. How long would you wait until you called? If I came across as needy, which I know I did, then waiting longer would be best, right? maybe even give it another week? That might even give her a chance to respond. By the way, this girl is without question an HB10 and I'm a working professional alpha-male. It was a great set up for a sexual relationship.

You are a working professional alpha male?

What, by Jove, is that? You make a living out of PUA? You don't just work, you work professionally. Awesome!

I would say call her now. Then you can cross it out on your agenda. I try to do things when I have time so I won't have to think back of it later. If she's a bitch you will save more of your precious alpha time and avoid wasting it giving thought to her.

Lol, when you get a little older your professional status sexually charges women. Working Professionals are considered to be lawyers, doctors, white collar type stuff. High value women start to seek out these men. Also whores, whores seek out these men. Maybe I sounded like an ass by saying that in the first place. Some women will basically get off on by being told what to do by a powerful man. My concern is that I first of all was really needy and insecure by texting her 3 times in a row over about a 30 hour period, and also maybe crossed the line of being aggressive to being abusive.

I'm pretty on the fence about when I should call. I'm still thinking that right now is too soon. It'll only contribute to looking needy. If I wait a while, it'll look more like it was a "oh ya, that one girl. I should call her again." Rather than her being the only thing on my mind for the last couple days.

Then, you choose to act reversely to what lives inside you, and choose to act non-authentically. On the short term this can win you an extra few bangs for your buck. Yet in the long run, "man cannot act otherwise than he is inclined to do by nature." (Machiavelli)

Hehe, about "working professional" - I know exactly what you mean!

Let me just tell you some awesome story about Parliament. And no not the Siberia anecdote Anyway, these two officials working there meet up some Romanian girl during a bar or cocktail drink. One of them has a little chat with her, and they add one another to facebook. She sends him a photo of the drink afterwards with a tag. Something along the lines of "look what a fun night we have had with the colleagues."

So the guy takes the photo and sends it - by email - to his colleague. He sees the photo and writes: "OMG yeah she's fuckable, you should do her and get her to suck your cock." However! He sends it, not to his colleague, who forwarded the message, but - by accident - to the composer of the email, which is to her, the Romanian assistent!

Since this guy deals with matters of honesty and code of conduct inside the Parliament, they start to sweat themselves, deadly afraid of being charged with unwanted intimacies or stalking... Then, the Romanian girl replies to the message, and writes: "Hey, I think I saw you somewhere before, at a cocktail party maybe? Weren't your grandparents from Spain, because mine were . . ." And he responds, so they start up a thread of nonsensical personal information.

So I'm sitting with these two friends of mine in a restaurant as they are telling me this story. All's well that ends well, and so relieved they were! Then, suddenly, one of them frowns, and says: "Hey! But, now that I think of it; why is she exchanging all these bullshit messages with you, and does not even respond to me when I ask her to send me the work that she is supposed to do?"

Needless to say, I totally crack up at this point.

Thanks

I'm open to other perspectives. Any one else with any ideas?