Alright so this girl I went to highschool with. HB8 or so. I had some classes with her, became friends, started to like her but never really expressed it, just kept being a cool guy. Now for the past year, we go to the same university. First semester I realized I had become totally friend zoned, would go over to her place all the time to hang out and stuff, although I would still kino all the time, make her laugh and tease her and stuff, I never escalated past that, never kissed her or anything. Now, realizing this, I decided I had to stop, and get some new girls. I did exactly that all throughout second semester while seeing HB8 around every once in a while (were still friends). While getting new girls, I still keep thinking about HB8, I guess I have a oneitis, I realize that I want her to be my GF. Finally partied with her last day of the semester, went to the club and danced with each other. Now we both moved back home (live close to each other ) I want to act on this girlfriend idea, but I'm not sure how to do this... I think if I just go for a kiss, she'll be all for that, I just need the right time. We don't have the same friends so I'd never catch her at a party or anything. Haven't talked to her in a week, what do you suppose I do?? I've never done the whole girlfriend thing before either, so it's all new to me.

Thanks!

Edited that... BUMP!

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You surrender to GFTOW. Stop talking to her. Stop hanging out with her. GFTOW instead.

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I knew that's the first thing somebody was going to tell me lol... To be fair, I've been thinking like that for a while now, after I've been around and seen a few girls, I wanna make my way back to this one. Even when I was in the club with her, I left her to dance with other girls and stuff. Trust me, I've never let her know that she's the prize.

You said you want her to be your girlfriend...but you don't have ten other girls around you that want to be your girlfriend. I say this from experience. Once I surrendered to GFTOW it was initially a hard road. I can always pickup girls but before applying GFTOW to my life I blew them out immediately.

You can start with this. Get ten phone numbers. Don't initiate talk with any of them. Don't reply unless it's 24 hours later or they've pestered you about not replying. Reply with, "I was busy. Chill." Put them in check. Let them know you're not going to come to their every beck and call, and that you have your own life that doesn't revolve around them.

Think about it. You've been around for many years. During all of them you never had to call her. One night you meet her. You still don't have to call her.

Once you have ten numbers that didn't try to contact you, you make the decision. You met ten girls that you had a great initial connection with. Is that actually special? No? Why? The answer is because you have ten of them. Maybe one of them sparks your interest a little more. Call her. Once. If she can't arrange a date within the next two days then start over. Eventually you will actually have more options.

You don't have women pining for you at the moment. You are not in an abundance mentality. Create the abundance reality and actually sleep with some of these girls. You're in college. Fuck anything that moves. Get your dick wet. Gain some sexual experience.

You said you have gone kino on her but kino is nothing without escalation. If a girl lets you touch her, gradually escalate the escalation until it's too awkward to not jump on her face and pull your dick out. Build up sexual tension with some push-pull, until you break that k-close barrier with PASSION and VIGOR. Use that kino to arouse her.

You haven't even dated this girl and you want to lock her in as your girlfriend? Don't just wam-bam ten other girls. See them simultaneously so you can judge the situation WITHOUT EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT. You are CLEARLY attached to this girl. I've been there man. It STILL happens to me. That's why I emphasize GFTOW. I straight up fall in love. It's what makes my "game" so good. I can bring about that "love" state so hard that not only do these girls become seduced by it; I DO TOO!

If you're straight out of high school you have a good ten years before you need to settle down. Take your time. Don't be in a rush to lock a girl into a relationship so you can have secure intimacy. You can have that with ten girls instead of just one. She can be one of the ten. You still need a base foundation. You don't have one now. Build it.

_________________
Attraction is a choice.
ITS YOUR CHOICE!
Spread Love
-Ders


www.facebook.com/spreadloveders

Respect.

I second everything _Lothario_ just said. Stated more euphemistically, spread the love. Don't waste all your time and energy on one girl. Love them all for the little things that make them unique, and you will have plenty of love coming back your way. Your time is precious and limited, spread it far and wide. Get the most out of it by meeting as many cool chicks as possible. Stop being selfish, there are plenty of girls that would die to spend a second with you if you were not up another chicks ass. Women love and respect men who are loved and respected by other women.