Hey guys,

I'm sort of in a bind.

A month ago, I n-closed and texted for a bit a HB9 online that recently moved to town then she went MIA. I never went out with her. Today, a month later, I re-opened and received positive response. Apparently, she quit the online dating scene.

The gist of the texting was:

Opener
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Me: Goodmorning, this is ___, haven't heard from you in a while - did you get thrown in jail or something?
Her: Hi ___! , How are you? I've definitely been in jail aka work! Haha, hope you've been well.
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I then DHV by stating:
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Me: Doing great. Currently in Las vegas at a business event (jealous yet?)
Her: Very jealous
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Then there was other filler text messages where she stated today was her longest day of the week of work.
I then proceed to set up the date:
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Me: I have a "get out of jail card" for you. Coffee or dinner when I get back this weekend. I just have this feeling that you're a great person and I'd like to get to know you better. Omw to dinner, i'll have a glass of wine for you.

Her: Coffee would be great
Her: Please do!!
Her: I'm off the dating website and can you send me a photo
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I then send her multiple photos and she immediately responds with 4 text messages

Her: Very handsome
Her: what is your last name
Her: I've never been golfing
Her: How old are you again?
Me: I turn ____ in Mar ___ , My swing sucks, I'm going to stick to fishing
Her: Wow, I'll be ___ in ____
Me: My last name is ______, yours?
Me: When works for you Friday or Saturday?
Her: I've never been fishing but I would go. I prefer movies, museums, arts.
Her: last name is ____
Me: I'm an amazing fisherman - sorry to brag. i.e. Good instructor
Me: well pleasure to finally have a conversation with you ____ ______
Her: Saturday during the day?
Me: Night better? I'm having lunch with two students I'm mentoring
Her: Evening?
Me: Evening 6 or 7ish
Me Up to you - fri or sat 6 and onwards works best

Then I didn't hear anything back Conversation RFR went back and forth at 7:00 pm.

I didn't text her back because I don't want to come across as needy.

However, I do know she works 10 hrs a day . I was thinking of texting her tomorrow morning not even bringing up the date logistics anymore saying something like : "Goodmorning, Hopefully you rested well and didn't stay up late watching Tom & Jerry or the Golden Girls last night" . She does have a humorous side to her. Or I can proceed to just say "Saturday afternoon works for me". I originally wanted to continue to DHV by not automatically obliging to Sat during the day.

Thoughts?

Low interest level as she barely remembered you at all, fortunately its not from overexposure so you can work to bring it up by pinging her with some flirty, sexy, funny texts over the next week at odd times. Don't overgame, and dont be so quick to answer her demographic inquiries without qualifying her. Assuming you can resonate then look to meet up with her again.

On a side note-something to keep in mind for future situations is YOU decide when if you're setting up the date. She already said evening which I would read as "any reasonable time to hang out after 3-ish and before ehhh 7 maybe (open to your own interpretation). Anyways, she gave you a broad time frame letting you know that she's free any time in the evening so pick a time rather than ask is this good? (or in this case "up to you") If you TELL her a time and it doesn't work for her, she'll let you know! No worries, and good luck

I will take those tips into consideration into my text msg. Fortunately, I didn't continue to followup last night.

Her last text was "evening?" so I assume she was fine - so I'll be more straightforward and hopefully she responds with confirmation or alternative.

Being more straightforward isn't going to help you. She knows what your after, you are better off casually conveying status while being fun and casual, then trying to pin her down for a timeline when she is ready to bite (if ever). Make the interaction fun for her, which gives her a reason to buy into you.

Most of the time, when someone posts about a girl with low interest I tell them to move on. Again the saving grace you have is that her low interest is hopefully related to you not making any impression on her yet, rather then a bad impression. Often guys post after they have hung out with a girl, clearly have made a non-attractive impression, and then they try to raise her interest level via text. That is a fools errand.