| Well, its always better to ask a girl to hangout over the phone than through text, so I would call her. I would wait maybe 2 days and then send her a text like:
"Hahaaa OMG something totally just reminded me of you." (The only purpose of this is to get her intrigued enough to pick up the phone when you call her)
And then when she asks what it is, I would say "Hold on, Im kinda busy right now. I'll call you in a little bit"
Then when I call her I just tell her a quick, silly, 2 minute story. I have two that I use a lot. One is about a girl who farted at the gym (Credit: Sinn) another is from my real life and its about a 5 year old kid in my taekwon do class who accidentally peed all over himself in the bathroom. And of course I'll pretend like that story just happened today. (I'm sleazy, I'm OK with it)
The reason that you make up for why the story reminded you of her doesn't really matter, because usually she'll be laughing about the girl who farted in the gym or she'll be half laughing and half like "awwwww" for the little boy who peed on himself and then I'll just say "oh yeah and the reason it reminded me of you is because I was talking to her outside the gym/talking to the little kid's dad after class and he/she was talking about xyz and you said you're really into xyz" OR "The girl who farted's name was Jasmine, like you. That's all." It really doesn't even matter at that point.
Then I'll just start a regular conversation. "So what are you up to? I did blah blah today." Tease a little. Qualify a little. Then after 20-30 min (the longer the better, but don't feel like you HAVE to have an hour long convo) I'll usually just say.
"You're adorable and you seem awesome so far. Whats your schedule like for the next few days? Lets hangout"
(The "you're adorable and you seem awesome so far" is more for first time phone conversations. If you've already made out with this girl, I would either leave that out or change it to something like "You're adorable. I like talking to you. What's your schedule like for the next few days?")
Honestly, I keep it as simple as that about 8 out 10 times that I call a girl and I have a very high success rate with it, BECAUSE I DO THINGS PROPERLY IN THE FIRST INTERACTION. VERY IMPORTANT.
The same way that if you touch a girl enough, the kiss comes naturally and you don't need a kiss close routine as much; if everything leading up to the texting and the phone call is done properly, you don't need as much "phone game."
The other 2 out of 10 times that I think I need a little something extra, I might add in the thing I told you above:
"I thought of an awesome idea of something for us to do together..."
But I rarely do anything more complicated than that.
But I'm not a huge fan of doing extra shit to get girls to like me. If she doesn't want to hangout thats fine. I move on the other girls in my phone.
Also, if a girl doesn't want to hangout, it probably has more to do with what you did in the initial interaction than how you're asking her to hangout. It usually because of something that you DIDN'T do that you SHOULD have done (like properly qualifying her) or because of something you DID that you SHOULDN"T have done (like act needy or something).
So, thats exactly what I would do in a case like this. Call her. Ask her to hangout. If shes no into it, then I would move on. And by the way, when I say "move on" I mean "move on" mentally. Like, move on to other girls, stop worrying about her, but you can still hit her up from time to time and see if maybe she turns around, just don't bank on it. Thats what I mean by move on. I don't necessarily mean never call or text her again.
Hopefully that helps to clear things up for how you should think of getting a girl on a date.
Why do you think it was much too sudden though? I don't get that. You already madeout with her. I'm willing to bet you didn't qualify properly or didn't qualify her enough.
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