| doesn't matter, compliance is all that matters
you go for what you want, you either get compliance or you don't,
everything else is irrelivant, if she is grumpy as fuck and keeps calling you a faggot, but she still complies with comming home with you and putting your penis in her mouth, does it really matter?
social value is only a slight aspect to this game, your social status fits in with your status overall, and the funny thing is, caring about your ''value'' and being neurotic and reactive, will actually lower your status, rather then raise it, you said you were demonstrating non-neediness, but this post clearly indicates the opposite
needy = lower social status
indifferent = higher social status
the least reactive person between two people holds the most social power, in other words, the person who cares the least about other peoples opinions of them, and does what they want the most (leads rather then follows), also it can be simply put as the most confident person has the highest social status (or ''value'' as you put it)
now consider this, you met this girl a month ago, and you haven't fucked her, you saw her again, and you tried to entertain her instead of trying to put your penis inside her, for some reason she is important to you enough that you are overanalyzing how much she likes you based on how she reacted to an entertaining dhv routine, if you want to know how much she likes you then just test her compliance and build it up to a kiss, if she complies try to work out the logistics to have sex with her, it makes no sense that she is so important to you when you have barley done anything with her and barley know her, you should go meet more girls man, so that this shit doesn't matter to you so much, if kissing some girl is a big deal to you, then you need to work on being less reactive/needy and actually challenge yourself when you go out more often with things that you fear instead of just holding onto what you are comfortable with
if a girl is passing compliance tests, that means build compliance further, at some point you are going to have to stop demonstrating value and pull your dick out of your pants, yeah you should be having fun and stuff, but all fun and no sexual intentions, and you are just the fun and games entertainer buddy and your dick gets to stay in your hand rather then in a vagina where it belongs
the best way to avoid the friend zone, is have sex with the girl you are interested in, and if she isn't compliant with that, don't be her friend and find a different girl who is interested in having sex with you, this saves you time and energy
a1 starts at the moment you make contact
a2 starts at the moment you hit the hook point
a3 starts after 3 iois
c1 starts after she has invested enough to qualify herself in a meaninful way and invests in a kiss
c2 starts after you've met her outside of the meeting location
c3 starts when you have the logistics for sex
s1 happens when you've initiated foreplay
s2 happens if she is resisting
s3 happens after you have fucked her
to simplify, if you're doing the MM, then you dhv until you see 3 ioi's, that could be 3 little giggles, it could be she asks your name, she touchs you, and she laughs at something you said, you can start a3 like 1 minute into set if the girl is giving you the ioi's
so what's a3? it's showing interest, it's hitting on her, it isn't about building value, if she seems like she likes the intereaction, you ask her questions about herself to bait her into qualifying to something you like, and then you let her know she qualifies as person you like, simple as that, meanwhile you should be building compliance
if she isolates, qualifies, and is compliant to a compliance test or two, it's time to go for a kiss
if you can't get compliance past a kiss, she is a giant waste of time, she won't comply with sex if she won't comply with a kiss, doesn't matter how much you dhv, doesn't matter what sort of ''I don't kiss guys'' bullshit she gives you, just pay attention to what she does, rather then what she says, her behavior and what she does will tell you alot more about how interested in you she is, then what she says
GOOD LUCK
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