I met this girl at college. We've known each other for some time now since we've taken some classes together. I never really payed much attention to her until we both broke off our respective LT-relationships. I had been off the game for a while so I felt a little rusty but I started gaming her. DHV'd succesfully, created attraction, etc.

About a week and a half ago I invited her out to the movies and things went pretty smoothly: portrayed some good inner game, had a nice time and k-closed nicely. I felt I had things in my bag when she was wishing for kisses the next day, to see me again, among other things.

I wasn't able to set up a day 2 shortly after since I had a busy schedule and so did she. Because of this I kinda felt her interest lingering and a little bit of AFC behavior started to cringe out (I started most of our conversations, which seems a bit needy), thinking her interest was lingering was pretty AFC since now it's pretty clear it wasn't. Last week (Tuesday) I got a little bit drunk and I sent some text messages that made it seem as if I was building some kind of expectations from her part (pretty stupid to think so taking into account we only went out once).

My AFC-y behavior went on for a few days but I went to visit her last Friday. It was actually pretty alright and I realized things were manageable despite my aforementioned behavior. Wasn't able to k-close again because of the location (this doesn't matter that much).

The dreadful point came down last Saturday (day after) when I mentioned some things about feelings (all of this by texting). She interpreted it as me asking her as if she had feelings for me (and maybe took that to mean that I was developing feelings for her). She told me she felt a little bit panicked that we were talking about feelings having only gone out once...

It wasn't what I intended to say so I tried to take it back and explain there were no feelings, just that I felt a little bit of compromise in showing interest and whatnot (this was the crappiest thing I could've said). She told me it seemed we were not on the same page after all (because we were looking for something fun, not serious, since we're both not interested in getting into another LT-relationship right now). This is what I want but I f'ed up because of AFC behavior coming out... In conclusion, I spoke a lil' bit more crap (which was stupid because it was kind of long for text messaging) and she was a bit unresponsive about it. So I decided not to give it too much thought and didn't speak to her again.

I saw her Sunday night on a mutual friend's party. We didn't really talk there and just said hello regularly. I didn't have a chance to game her there, nor was I much into the mood really.

It's now Tuesday and we haven't spoken since. Now here comes the, "what do I do?" part.

I don't mind if it is unrepairable, but I was actually looking forward to having this kind of thing specifically with her because of logistic reasons. Should I wait until she speaks to me again or I see her in college again (next week)? Should I text her something fun now to try and liven it up? (If so, any ideas would be welcome...) Or should I call her up and invite her to go out tonight? (If I get her to say yes I'm pretty sure I can probably fix it up with some nice DHVing, kino, etc.) Or any other option you guys think...

Thanks in advance, looking forward to hearing from you guys.
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you have presented us with a almost unsalvagable position lol. you fucked it up by not talking to her sunday and repairing things. girls can tell when your sincere in person and take things much better than they would over a text. recomendation from me would be "hey, so i was pms'ing last week, and made a fool of myself. any chance my middle name is mario and i get another life? i really enjoyed talking with you until i went stupid:/, retry?" or something along those lines. if you want to salvage it you have to admit you were wrong and rebound from there.