| she may not be the center of your universe, but she is a priority to you, when she has blown you off, and given you the cold shoulder, not saying you should be butthurt about this, but respect yourself, bitch shield is something girls put up at a bar because they don't want to talk to you, not something a girl has going on 24/7, if a girl is rude to you all the time chances are she doesn't like you, or she is a negative person, seriously examine the compliance a girl is giving you, and how she acts around you, trying to throw you off and test a bit is normal, giving your straight dis-interest and zero compliance is not
that is the point, you don't need this girl, she is not special, that is neediness coming through, just let her come to you, relax about it, let time fix all the problems, and when you think it has been a while and she might miss you, hit her up, there is no rush to get her, and thinking the opposite of this, and prioritizing assigning some sort of special qualities to her, is only going to lead to you being attached to her, that won't necessarily screw you over, but chances are it will do more harm then good, neediness tends to be a turn off, sometimes you have to interpret dis-interest, as dis-interest, and calibrate by just distancing yourself, don't chase that which runs, interest for interest and escalate, dis-interest for dis-interest, and withdraw attention, the rest is just focusing on the connection between the two of you and enjoying it, while moving things forward
when I say be cooler, I mean, stop being so serious about this, don't build her up so much, care less, be more indifferent to getting this girl and not getting her, if she comes up and says ohhh you got a haircut, say something about her, cool, you noticed, what ever, just vibe and don't be all weird with random plots to get reactions, when she starts getting weird or rude, that is when you start playing the ignore card, and don't dwell on the past, just stay in the present and enjoy yourself, relax more, don't worry about this stuff, be more cool about it, less hot for blood (vagina blood in this case)
if asking her out feels like suicide there is probably a reason for that,
my suggestion was already given, move onto other girls, and forget about her, once you have forgotten about her, you can come back to her and try again, hopefully when you try again, you don't care as much about what happens
the thing is, is you did good the first time around, and you escalated, but then after you got some investment from her, you just got really attached to the idea of her, and elevated how important she is to you, you started really caring about getting this girl and have made her out to be special, this has given you some neediness towards her, you are clinging to the idea of getting her, you have to just stop it, assume it is done with her, and move onto new girls, that doesn't mean continue focusing on her and at the same time talk to other girls, use other girls to take your focus off of her, once she is no longer a priority for you, you can go back to her, but if you have been thinking about it, chances are you are caught in a paradox and still needy for her
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