Quick question on LMR. Which do u think is better.

1. When we start making out and things get hot and heavy I stop the escalation saying things are moving too fast then proceed to do something else non sexual.

2. When we start making out i do the reach around and start fingering her from the back so she is putty in my hands and doesn't resist when i unzip her pants with my other hand.

Also with number 1 would i be able to start making out with her again and escalate further the same day or would it be wise to set up a day 2 for further physical escalation.

2. then 1.?

I've had great reasons with 2. and have seen a few other people on this forum stay the same. Touching a girl's crotch from the front is quite bold...but if you reach around from behind, sliding up her thigh or down the small of her back, you seem to never get resistance. You can arouse the girl's loins without actually touching her there or 'fingering' - your hand is on her upper inner thigh so it's semi-innocent. There must be nerves that run between the crotch and legs.

I've read many PUAs advocate 1., but I have a question for you guys about it: how do you not trigger anti-slut defense? I would think that if you pull away after a certain point, you'd make the girl feel slutty or rejected or self conscious.