ok ive had blue balls before and never enjoy them...tonight it was the worst i have ever had them...

I saw my ex and took her out to dinner and then went back to her place and we watched a movie. I gave her a back massage and then clothes started coming off. I got her bra off and things were going good, i mentioned that i was going to tease her all night long.

So i pull her back and start kissing her neck while rubbing her thighs. We then start making out, i suck on her tits, start rubbing on her vag(with shorts and thong still on), but could not penetrate it!

Every time i would go down there she would say that she "cant", i would still try to tease her by kissing her neck, chest, back, and so forth...but Noting i had up my sleeve would get me to taste the sweet nectar....

The only thing i could think of on the spot was i said to " just relax" she said she couldn't blah blah blah....

So, should i have said something else? just try and force my way in? we dated for 8 months and this was the first time i saw her in like a year and a half so i am almost positive she got the impression that i was just using her for sex (which is true, but i haven't been laid in a year so i couldn't resist...)

i am thinking of just cutting my loses and starting from square one...any advice on what i should have done would be greatly appreciated!

Are you sure she didn't have her period?

I have a similar situation going on. I haven't resolved it and don't have much advice, except:

- There'sa good reply in my thread ("LMR Despite Her Friskiness" in this forum; recent), the advice I got could apply to you.

- Above poster is right about the period. I recently overcome LMR (from a different, much easier girl than the one in the above point) by simply letting her give me BJs for the next few days, then proceeded to sex.

- Perhaps your urgency (blue balls etc.) is coming out in your behavior. This could be a DLV, and-or scare her a little. Try acting more relaxed (but stil confident and dominant). Easier said than done, I know. Your "I'm gonna tease you all night" line was good though; it conveys state control.

agree with her ''u're right we shouldn't'' and keep teasing. If she still sais no say'' don't worry about it, we'll be alright'' then if she still gives u lmr say ''i'm not gonna make u do something that u dont want to. I'm gonna count down from 5 and if u want me to stop all u need to do is say stop'' count down slowly kiss her neck, grind on her, kiss her again, pull down her panth and continue with the coundown everytime she gives u lmr. Now in that point she would be really horny but there is no guarantee she won't give u lmr again. If that happens just sit on the side of the bed and don't say anything, don't act upset just stay there.

Bro, paradigm shift here, but she could have been doing you a huge favor. Maybe she picked up something bad and she doesn't want you to have it. You got me.

The answer is..... CNN!

I had LMR last week, and I defeated it by "You're right, let's watch TV". Thankfully CNN sucks so watching 2 minutes of that shit got her rubbing my back and pulling me back to bed again.

In all seriousness, every situation is different so it's hard to generalize about LMR but what they all have in common is there's a sense of doubt that you can overcome by simply staying cool, emotionless and willing to walk away but at the same time communicating that to you this is not a one time thing. LMR will NOT happen if she knows EXACTLY why you like her. You need to start working on defeating LMR in A3 rather than in S3.

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Thank you all for the feeback! i will keep that all in mind in future situations.

As for my ex last night, i texted her this morning saying thanks for having me over and all that, and low and behold, _Action_ was right...She said she started her period right when we got home from dinner and that she actually really wanted to have sex...guess i just over thought the whole process.

Thanks again for the advice, i'll be sure to use it in different situations!!