I had a second date set up on thur. I was meeting this hb 8 at her work after her shift for lunch.


30 min before scheduled meet she said


hey I don't think its gonna work out today can I get a rain check?



I replied with


no problem just give me q call when you would like to go out


if she never contacted me I was gonna walk but she messaged when she supposedly got off work

hey sorry about earlier it was crazy busy today I didn't even get off in time to get my sister, I Definetly still want to hang out though!

I decided she must have actually had a valid reason to flake as she seems interested or she was testing me and I passed. So I called her and we set up dinner on Thursday. This is the only time our schedules didn't clash, and I don't get off class till 7 so id pick her up at 730 pm

The issue is she is 18 and I'm 20, she said she would have to talk to her parents but it shouldn't be a problem. I told her to talk to them and let me know what they say.
This has flake written all over it to me.
I was gonna call her on Tuesday and find out if she talked to them yet, I'm guessing she won't have as she will be worried how her parents will react to her wanting to go out with an older guy on q school night. I would think her parents would be a little cautious about it
so.when I call her should I tell her I would like to meet her parents? That way they would be less worried and I would sort of be a little closer with her as I would come up in family conversations

Meet her parents? Are you being serious?

Look mate, if she wants to come out she will find a way. As if she cant say "Im going to the cinema with x and y to watch whatever tonight" and come out with you.

I am telling you now that this parents excuse is complete bull. You are 2, yes 2, years older than her. If you were 28-30 then sure she might feel the need to discuss it with her parents.

Do not call her or message her. If she wants to contact you, she knows where to find you.

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This is absolutely true. I can't tell you how many girls told me they used to lie to their parents about who they're hanging out with or just sneak out to see a boy they liked. It's more common with girls who have strict parents.

You want to meet the parents? Don't be nuts man. Save that for when you two have officially become an item.

My advice to you is to just continue on with your week, and when its time for the date, just call her up and say, "Hey, I'm coming now. You better be dressed by the time I get there!" Assume that if you don't hear from her, the date is still on. And if she flakes on you, next her ass.

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Pretty little girls, so used to getting your way. Along comes a man who challenges you, and suddenly you don't know what to say.

Lol i don't see why its such a big deal. its no sweat for me to to do it I'm not scared of them or worried what theyl think of me.

wingman, its not about you and being worried etc. You are not even an item yet so you have no business talking with the parents. Please do not even mention this to the girl otherwise she will freak out and you will ruin your chances.

Imagine if a girl came to your parents and asked if it was ok if she took you out. Wouldnt you feel stupid or pathetic? Wouldnt your parents ask themselves "Who the hell is this and why are they asking if they can take my son out?" Well thats exactly what would happen with her and her parents.

Get this idea out of your head immediately.

Either do what Vietman100 said or just follow what I said in my first reply.

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It is a big deal to you because you're the one asking us if you should tell her you want to meet her parents.

Anyway, you do have the right mentality that it doesn't matter what the parents think, because you're dating their daughter, not them. However I want to repeat that meeting the parents when you guys aren't even in a relationship is a bad idea.

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Pretty little girls, so used to getting your way. Along comes a man who challenges you, and suddenly you don't know what to say.

Gotcha. I didn't say anything about it and I asked her yesterday if she talked to them yet and she said she was waiting till the right moment.
The text exchange went well.
I called her tonight at 7 to confirm our plans for tomorrow, she didn't answer and I left her a text saying. to call me back. its 1020 and still no reply. I'm actually gonna be fuckin pissed off if she doesn't get back to me tonight. if I don't hear from her tonight I'm nixing our plans and for sure

"Waiting for the right moment" sounds like BS to me. She didn't answer your call and hasn't replied to your text. I say freeze out now. I know it'll be tempting to try and text her/call her again but it'll do more harm than good at this point in my opinion.
It's amazing what a day with no contact from you can do.

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