| One of the wonderful things about being an attraction coach (there are a few), is that you get to see so many vital pick up skills reflected every day in the world around you and marvel at how much success in anything requires such a similar range of skillsets.
I had such an experience last week when I came home after a night coaching session to my lovely girlfriend.
I’ve been on a very strict diet recently in an attempt to reclaim my six pack which 6 months ago was overwhelmed by my keen eye for good chocolate. So you can imagine my feelings when I came home to my girlfriend on the couch watching TV, eating a large piece of chocolate cake.
The ensuing conversation went as follows:
ME: Hey sweetheart, have a good night?
GF: Hey baby, yeah was great. You want a piece of cake? (it begins)
ME: No thanks, I’m on a diet (I want cake, but I resist because of a diet)
GF: has another bite of cake “Oh baby, seriously it’s the best cake, I haven’t had cake like this in ages (She persists because she knows I really want it)
ME: No thanks, tempting as it is I have to be good (but im thinking to myself how good it would taste)
GF: has some more cake, groans ecstatically in my direction due to cake being tasty
ME: Stop it, you’re killing me here (I’m starting to consider whether I deserve a piece of cake after my hard gym session today)
10 minutes pass
GF: “Okay I’m onto my last bite, seriously just have a little nibble”
ME: “Oh my god, it looks so good, seriously I have to behave”
GF: waves last bite of cake under my nose
ME: “Oh fine, I’ll just try a bite”
Now at first glance this simply appears to be a fun tiny domestic scene that could occur anywhere, but there’s an important lesson here. I rejected my girlfriend 4 times, and she persisted 5 times. Why did she persist? Because she knows that I want the cake deep down inside, and the more she persists the weaker I get.
I’m sure we can all relate to the above scene, and can easily understand the psychology going on. My will gets whittled down because deep down part of me wants to give in and eat the cake.
THE GOLDEN RULE OF PERSISTENCE: If someone wants something, they can only endure being asked a limited number of times before giving in. If they don’t want it, they will get more repulsed every time they’re asked.
The rule applies extremely well to picking up women. Every time a women says no to you, you should be ready and willing to ask 3 more times. It’s a rule I give all my students and this simple change alone will double your results.
WHY?
Well, first of all read the golden rule!
Second of all, women are very attracted to men who aren’t afraid to push for what they want. It reflects their attitude to life, and what woman wants a man who gives up at the first sight of rejection?
Thirdly, when you are willing to be really persistent with a women, you begin to feel more manly. You start to feel more proud of yourself for persisting. Over time, this makes you more confident with women, especially when asking for things like numbers or for her to come home with you because you are already prepared to ask 3 more times, you’re hardly going to be shy the first time you ask.
BE WARNED:
When being persistent it helps to have fun and persist in a teasing fashion rather than to simply ask the same way over and over again which can easily become irritating.
Think of fun ways to ask the same question over and over again, provide reasons why they should re-think their choice and try again.
e.g.
ME: Hey, what’s your number
HER: I really like you,but I don’t give my number to strangers
ME: I understand that makes sense, I’ll forgive you for making a mistake, but I like you so I’m going to have to ask again in 2 minutes.
2 minutes pass
ME: Hey, can I see your phone for a minute I want to have a look at something (cheeky grin)
HER: sure, why? Wait, that’s very sly no I told you already
ME: I’ll get you eventually you know that right (wink at her)
2 minutes pass
ME: I bet you your phone number that you can’t guess what year I was born in.
HER: haha, oh my god, you are so persistent!…
ME: I know!
2 minutes pass
ME: Okay, All joking aside I’ve had fun with you, and I know we’d have a great time on a date. I’m not going to stop asking you, so the outcome is inevitable. What’s your number? I’m going to take you on a date.
HER: Wow, okay but just so you know, I NEVER give me number out normally.
Now she knows I’m being cheeky and persistent, and she laughs every time I ask, but she finds it fun that I’m not being perturbed. The number giving has become a laughing point of the interaction. The same can be done any time a woman turns you down. Simply ask again in a fun and original way.
I see so many men lose great women because they give up too easily. There are so many reasons why a woman can say no to something other than because she doesn’t like you. There are so many circumstances when I see guys walk away from women who are clearly interested in them simply because they gave up too easily.
Learn to be persistent now, and it will prove to be an invaluable skill in all areas of your life. Always be willing to ask for the same thing 4 times. You’ll be amazed at how much more opportunity will come your way.
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