So i found this good looking girl, who imo get's an 8 on beautyness. But the problem is that i got her number, and have NO FREAKING IDEA WHAT DATE I SHOULD HAVE WITH HER!

So i found out that she doesn't like shopping at all (when she shops, she buys things on the internet, or goes to east-germany, we live quite close to the German borderline). And i read the sticky topic in this section, which i have to say: my experience is that first dates on cinema's are bad!.

So i told her to call her this Sunday, that's in 1,5 day. Is it bad if i call her a day earlier ( i met her yesterday)?
And what kind of date am i supposed to get on? the only thing i know about her is that she lives about 10 miles from me, she likes horses, and she likes to go out.
What do i do? And how should i call her on the phone, how do i convince her to go out with me?

nobody has an answer?, i am supposed to call her tomorrow but i still don't have any idea for a date, what a good location is.

My ideal first date, which is unlikely to get turned down and impossible for you to lose value, is something you're planning to do anyway and she just happens to be there. Let's say you need a scarf and you're going out shopping for one, ask her to tag along (I know you said she doesn't like shopping for her but she'll go if she likes you). Another one I love doing (actually I do this the most) is tell her you're going out with friends, tell her to come and bring a friend too. This way there's no pressure, it's fun, you demonstrate your value by showing her you have friends and later you can isolate her and be one-on-one.

So make sure you give her a couple of options so if she really can't make one she'll go to the other. Let us know how it goes.

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Ok so this is what I texted to her 1 hour ago:
Hey, if you have time next week, we could meet up to know each other better. Let's hang out with friends first at someone's home to chill/relax and get to a night club after to have a weekend to absolutelly remember.
Then i sent a few mins later:
Oh, and you don't necessarily have to come alone, bringing a friend may also.
I know this isn't the best text message, so my question is:
What do i need to change for the next time, to get a good text message, which sounds appetising?

You want to make it sound more natural and not so calculated. There's nothing that bad about what you said to her but there might be hints in there that suggest you're calculating this a little too much. You don't want her to think you're thinking about this or her too much, just enough to get her excited. Again, you didn't say anything bad but I'd be more mysterious like:

"Hey I'm going out with friends on Friday, come for a drink and I'll introduce you to some cool people. Also I'm going Christmas shopping for my little 7 year old cousin on Saturday, I need your help finding something for her".

Give her a couple of options. This is your chance to sub-communicate and show your high value to her. Take advantage of the chance.

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Nightclub? You look about 10!


Anyway, never send more than 1 message before getting a reply. Now this time you did it because you forgot to say about bringing a friend. Next time don't send the message until you're sure you have it correct. And also as the above poster said play it cool. Less is more.

Can you explain me what you mean by that?

Anyways, thanks for the help. I don't think she will reply soon enough so i just gonna freeze her out, and move on.

It always a problem of me on texting games, i never really know how to say things funny and appetising, maybe some tips on that?

Wall1e,

Your first mistake was saying "If you have time." woman, (Especially at HB8 and up) don't respect men who arn't a little more assertive. EXPECT her to say yes. it shows confidence and woman are more likely to respond to it. As r as date ideas go the guys comments above are great. I love going shopping for something I want and having them come along.

-TA

So basically if you go out shopping and the girls likes you, she will go along, even if she hates shopping?
If yes, then i have never thought of it, and it could be material to try out next time.

I don't think any woman really "HATES" shopping. They may not like some aspects of it that which are likely to be irrelevant to this situation. For example spending lots of money. That's not an issue when going shopping with & for you. They'll get a chance to give you their opinion and interact with you in a non-threatening way, so it's a very good way to spend time with her in the beginning.

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thanks, i'm heading to shop for family presents on christmas tomorrow, i still have to do the newbie mission: saying HI. But i think: i have this 9 year old cousin.... that would be a good opener on the christmas subject.