hey guys so ive been seeing this girl for a little while and it started out very intense, we saw eachother a lot and had sex a lot.

over the last few weeks we have cooled down a bit due to being busy and other things but we are still seeing eachother fairly often.

the problem is everytime we hang out now there is less 'good stuff' happening. were cuddling and spending time together hanging out, but the sexual edge is gone.

i feel like i have put myself in this situation by not moving the direction of the relationship back into a more sexual light. and i feel like a bit of a chump cos i sacrificed a night of working to spend time with her, and the good shit didn't happen. I like her, and i'd love to be in a relationship with her or be friends, but i'm not sure if i can separate my feeling sexually when i spend time with her.

do you think that i can salvage this?

Have you tried sexually escalating again ? the sexual edge is gone , maybe because you are not leading her there anymore ? or has she said " I DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX ANYMORE? "

if you were cuddling , shouldn't have been to hard to build from there.

next time you hang out , Try triangular gazing to build sexual tension .. kiss .. make out .. escalate.

This obviously has to be done tastefully as for her not to get the impression you just want a f*ck buddy.

Good luck.