Hey,

Short and simple, I know a girl who works on campus as an intern. She has an office which has no windows and is super bland. I was wondering how you guys would feel about me coming by one day with flowers. Not an "i love you bouquet" but more of a colorful casual potted plant.

For context as to how close we are, at this point we've seen each other around a couple times at mutual friends' events, but without much interaction. Last time though, we ended up separating from the group and dancing together all night and holding hands/having our arms around each other while going home. I think it might also be of importance that this girl is very inexperienced. As far as I know never had a real boyfriend and definitely a virgin (21).

Yesterday, we went on a lunch date which also went well but a lot more casual (harder for me to game during the day). I did mention her office needs life or at least a window, so it wouldn't be completely out of nowhere.

But I honestly don't know. On the one hand, it does seem like a genuinely nice and friendly thing to do. On the other, I'm worried about the chance of LJBF and whatnot...

Also, if you are pro-flowers, I wouldn't some advice as to what I should actually get her. All I know about flowers is that despite how they smell, you shouldn't eat them

Hey,

So unfortunately I didn't receive any replies to this. Totally understandable, first post and I'm already trying to get advice without adding anything to this forum....

Anyways, if anyone would ever have a similar scenario, I decided not to do it. Flowers, although very casual, do have a lot of societal stigmas associated with it. I am holding out a bit, seeing if she makes a move to meet up again, as it so far was only me planning all the dates. But, if she does, I still want to do something nice for her office.

I'm thinking a lot more casual, maybe a poster or something

Damn I didn't see this in time. I could have warned you not to do stupid things like this. Flowers are for girlfriends. You don't buy flowers unless she's your girlfriend and even then you do it rarely to keep it unique. Also, I recommend you buy potted plants because they actually worth something. Majority of the girls I know prefers to get potted plants because if it's just a single flower it will die in a few days(the others don't prefer this because they're too lazy to take care of the plant other than putting it in water and watching it die two days later...fuck them. They don't deserve to get anything)

But back to your actual problem. Why would you want to make something nice to her office? What has she done that she actually deserve this? You know...three kinds of people do favors for others without reasons 1) creeps 2)friends 3) people who are already in a relationship. You are definitely not 3). If you are 2) then sorry maybe that's gonna stay at just there especially if you act like a friend. And I assume you don't want to look like a creep either.

Now that I summerized what you should NOT do, I want to tell you how I would continue this. First of all, you don't wait until she contacts you. You're the man damn it, it's your job to set up a meeting. So you ask her out, go on a date and start to actually do something productive(try kissing her). If she goes out with you that means you have not completely fucked this up and may still have pretty good chances. If she says no, then it is a clear sign that you should immediately seek the next girl. Good Luck! Cheers

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I agree with MynameisFisher. Even in a relationship I wouldn't recommend getting her anything to lighten up her room, skin, weight or other subjects I consider feminine. Don't decorate stuff.

Yeah no gifts, or flowers. This actually might scare her off. If you must I would playfully neg her about her bland office. Tell her we are going shopping to fix the boring prison like office. (Or something similar.) Not only will it set a date with her, if SHE purchases items and uses your advice everytime she see's the plant, poster, etc. She will think of that date. Simple NLP.

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