So last night I slept with a girl I've been dating for one month, at her house. As soon as we got into her bed, I started foreplay, and she seemed to like it.

However, as soon as I reached for the lower regions, she grabbed my hand and said "stop". Now... I know sometimes this "stop" doesn't" actually means stop, rather she's just testing you and wants you to go on... But I kept on going for like 3 times, and only to get the exact same response. After that, I gave up, I was eager to get some sleep...

Now, this wouldn't be a big problem if I already had sex before... Yep, I'm a 19 year old virgin, and it's fuckin me up inside.

So what do you think went wrong?

Cheers

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The moment the girl says stop means that she is dictating what happens. When (if) that happens again, just say "ok, whatever" and stop completely and turn it around. Don't strop and don't look angry. Hopefully if she wants it, she will make the move back to you, if not then you know it can't happen.

If she says stop then well...just stop. Do something else. Anything else. You say ok, and then go out to the kitchen, eat something or whatever. She will miss you and will think twice before she stops you again because her mind wants to avoid that bad feeling when you're not there. So you can try again a little later. If she still stops you, she's not ready yet. Oh but make sure you don't act resentful. That's a turn off.

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^^^ this

bro,

these guys have good tips but i would suggest another few things. with almost every girl u try n F close you will get LMR (last minute resistance) and there are many ways to combat it. FREEZE OUTS work great... like the guy have allrdy said (go to kitchen... or i start searching on internet/phone and just ignoring her...). then after a few minutes start Building Comfort again... aka talking about her family... idk blah blah and then start kissing/making out again....

now u go for the f close and oh? she says stop again? thats cool... do the same things again... and like the guys said DO NOT BE MAD about it... this will REALLY piss her off and ull blow any chance.

you can also say she like "ok thats cool i respect it when a girl says no... but it just turns everything off inside me like a switch blah blah ect...) this works like a charm and she will start trying to WIN U BACK and start making out/kissing you.. when this happens start slow again and then by a 3-4th time she will let you F close her.

Also, and dont take this the wrong way, the lack of F close experience isnt helping you here. if there is any sign of awkwardness/ weirdness she will sense it and will say no. So always STAY confident. my first few times in bed the girl was doing all the work..... because i didnt know WTF i should do lol. so stay confident, dont get mad, and TAKE THE LEAD. girls want a man to be DOMINATE in the bedroom but also a guy she trusts and feels comfortable with.

Try this next time out... and i would also suggest studying up on female anatomy stuff. (i know this sounds stupid... but if u want a girl to REALLY want you and want you 2 F her all the time... you need to know how to stack her orgasms/ make her cum everytime you guys have sex..which has takes studying/experience). you can either be an AFC in bed.. (like most guys are) or be a PRO and go down on her like shes never had before. Being a pro in bed and making her cum will make her want you 24/7 tho... so be careful. I read that only 30% of the time in bed do girls actually cum. 66% of the time they dont organism! tells me a lot of guys are inexperienced/ dont know how to make her cum. if you can... and she cums harder then ever before with you... its over bro. you win.

Gl sir.

Duke

I agree with what others said. Don't act like it hurt your feelings or get pissed off like some loser, just say okay and don't do anything else.

I had this happen with a girl who came over I was seeing. She didn't want us to hook up because I told her I didn't want a relationship. I went down her and she kept saying "this isn't right, no." Okay whatever, I stopped and went to bed.

Tried again the next morning, went down on her. Was real wet and then I just grabbed a condom and said "I'm going to fuck you now."

There was no resistance.

O_O I wonder what happens in the other 4% of the time?

But yeah congrats bro. Another great trick is "I understand", this is good for "Token" resistance (when a girl wants to F you but doesn't want to feel like a slut), but not so good for hardcore LMR. As others have said - freeze outs are your best bet. Or if you are seeing her on a regular basis, just don't get mad, act like its not a big deal, build more comfort the next time you see her and next time she will put up much less resistance.

-Flyingsmurf

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