I've known a girl on facebook for a few years now as we met originally from a dating site, but we've never really managed to hook up until last Sunday, up until that point we've messaged on facebook lots, and over the past few months talked on the phone and and sent each other lots of text and I've grown really fond of her

Anyway last Sunday we met and OMG she was stunning in real life, she was dressed to impress and the date went really well and I didnt even need to game her or do that much kino escalation. She said I looked far better than my photos and she had a far better time than she expected so I must have got things right on the day, as such she'd love to see me again but she said those dreaded words 'but we need to take it slow'.

Not following the rules from this point Ive text her probably too many times already (but bare in mind we text each a fair bit anyway) and tried to arrange a few dates already without trying to pressurise her.. anyway she sent me a text last night to say she's feeling pressurised and I now dont know how to back off without her feeling she's pissed me off or Ive gone cold .. or maybe this is what I should do ..

Can anyone offer advise as I really like this girl and she knows I do as I now need to get her to want me more than I want her

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There's still life in the old dog yet

The key to getting her is............. NOT WANTING HER! I mean jeez, if you act like you could have anybody in the world this girl would be drooling all over you. Stop texting her often, stop messaging her, and stop talking to her in general. Give it about a day or two and she'll come back around at the snap of your fingers. It's gonna be hard not wanting to text her, but for the sake of getting her, DO NOT TEXT HER. I don't care if you have to cut off all your fingers, just don't talk to her. And stop being so god damn needy. It's just one girl. There's plenty more hawt babes out there buddy. If your serious about her, then take my advice to heart.

Girls don't find anything attractive about a needy guy(unless she had daddy issues, but thats another story). If you want the girl, then have options. Make yourself seem pre-selected, go make some friends with girls. BUT DRAW THE SOLID LINE BETWEEN FRIEND AND LOVER. Girls want what they can't have. Think back about your days as a child, what attracted girls? Being mean and calling her names right? Well shit son, it's the same thing except we don't call her names and be mean. We nag and push-pull. Put a girl on a pedestal, and you'll soon find someone stole your treasure.

- Katon