Okay, so this one's a tad complicated.

I picked up a pretty girl at a Fake Prom event over the summer. Right from the get-go, she played it aloofer than aloof. I would text her one evening, she'd reply the next evening, etc... She blamed it on being a waitress and having a hectic, unpredictable schedule.

Anyhoo...we went on one date in September. Just got a kiss on the cheek at the end, but it went really well. Afterwards, I sent her lighthearted texts and she seemed quite receptive. We made another date, but she flaked on the day of. And eventually, she kind of stopped replying to my texts. So I gave up.

But THEN. I got a text with her in NOVEMBER going "Hey, how was your Halloween?" and she followed up by asking me to go for a drink. The date went great, and ended with me kissing her at the end. In the following days, i sent her playful texts again and she was quite receptive. But when I brought up going on another date, she didn't respond. Eventually I got a call from her and she explained that she'd actually been seeing someone else, and while it wasn't serious before, it had just gotten serious and she didn't want to keep jerking me around. But she also admitted that she found me very attractive and thought i was a great kisser, and that i could call her anytime.

ANYHOO. I forgot about her and started dating someone else. Then, in February, I got my heart shattered, so I decided to text the Fake Prom waitress girl in retaliation. She was very receptive, and suggested we go for a drink to catch up. I asked her about Thursday of that week...and so, she didn't respond until the Wednesday night of the NEXT WEEK, asking to go for a drink the next day. I agreed and the date was stellar. During the date, she sort of implied she wasnt seeing that guy anymore. At the end, she offered to let me stay at her place if I had too much to drink, and being the dog that I am, I complied. When we got there, I went for the soda and got in her pants. The sex was intense. I made her cum. And she asked me to scratch her back after wards.

The next morning I had to get up early for work. I tried to initiate some light cuddling, but she seemed pretty out cold. Before I left, she let me kiss her a bit. I tried to go for a make-out, but she said she had morning breath. Anyway, when I got back to my car, it had been broken into and my laptop was missing. I texted her telling her what had happened, and she was like "OMG THAT'S SO FUCKED UP!! If you need anything, let me know." So I followed up with "Well, I may need another drink sometime soon. Many drinks, actually." And she just replied with "Did you call the police?"

So that was last Friday. I haven't heard from her since. I sent her a text Monday night asking how her weekend went and got nothing back. My question is, WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON?? Did she just want a one night stand? Should I try texting her again or just wait it out, hoping she'll come around a week or several months from now? This girl's clearly too flakey to turn into a GF, but I would like very much to do the dirty with her again. How do I go about doing that now?

Most of it was ok up until you replied to her response about your car getting broken into. When your car gets broken into thats pretty fucked up! YOU SHOULD BE ANGRY.

Instead you brush it off like it was nothing saying you want to go for drinks again. You may have thought this was a normal response but getting drinks again really means lets have sex again and now she feels used. It sounds like her last relationship didn't go well you may have been the rebound but main reason you got sex was because she wanted it badly and verbally communicated it to you.

If you understand what im saying you need to get her to open up find out why she is like that and explain why you acted the way you did.

Well okay, it wasn't THAT blatant. It was more like:

ME: fuuuckk meeee someone broke into my car and stole my laptoppppp

HER: OMG are you fucking kidding me??? i'm so sorry!

ME: It was my fault for leaving it in plain view. Don't apologize! You were a wonderful host!

HER: Still that's horrible. If you need anything let me know.

ME: Well I might need another drink sometime soon. Many drinks, actually. (Here i was asking her out while still showing I was pretty upset about the situation)

HER: Did you call the police?

ME: Yeah, but I doubt they'll do much. I might check local pawn shops. Chances are some junkie needed crack money real quick.

And that was our last exchange. My phone died right after that, so part of me is wondering if some of her messages didn't get through. It's also odd she wouldn't respond to my text asking how her weekend went. Now I'm starting to wonder if THAT text went through...

Do i text her AGAIN? or would that make me look desperate?

Dont text her.
To be brutally honest, sounds like she just wanted to get laid. She may want to again, but she must feel attraction.

Everything youve done/ are doing is borderline non attractive.

Kissing her and cuddling in the morning? Pfff GAY. Get up and bounce, dont text her shit. THAT would have made her text you.

OK let me rephrase

What I would have done:

fucked her, left in the morning with just a kiss to say bye.
the whole laptop thing, that sucked. I wouldve texted her probly ONCE. she woulda replied watever and i woulda not relpied because IM TOO BUSY BEING ANGRY AND DEALING WITH THE ISSUE.

Then, I woulda texted her hours later saying something like "you are so fucking sexy"

Yeah get your priorities right you keep putting her above everythibg else. And about the cuddling do it if she wants to dont force it. her post sex texts were just friendly ones as she ignored your drinks statement id say wait 2weeks then text her again.

Hmm. This makes sense. I definitely jumped the gun asking to go for another drink so soon. I guess I saw the "if you need anything let me know" as an ideal opening to ask the question, but in retrospect it made me look fucking desperate. What the FUCK was I thinking. Now she probably thinks I'm madly in love with her, when the truth is...I just want to shag her silly again. If only I could just tell her that straight up.

Dont tell her straight up you want sex...

Wait 2weeks then text her meet up for a drink. If she doesnt reply then wait a month or so before you text again. Forget about how you acted don't bring it up again and don't apologise. Improve on yourself and make it a clean slate next time you meet because your previous game won't get you laid again.

I don't think the problem lies in a single reply you've given her, as I see it you generally try to push it a bit too hard to compensate for her aloofness.

Let me explain. I'd guess like any other girl she get's hit on by guys (AFCs) quite often, so through the years she developed a subconscious pattern of aloofness to keep them from getting too involved with her too fast.
Most of the time that will trigger a pattern in AFCs where they'll try to hit even harder on her, to overcome that distance, and to get the attention and comfort from here that they want.

And you fall sometimes back into the same pattern, it's like a balancing act, invest enough to keep your sex-friendship going, but everytime you see the slightest sign of her getting distant again (which means you're pushing too hard) pull back again and release her from your pressure.

If you learn to judge her reactions closely and immediately react you'd only have to release her for a few seconds/minutes and then continue. If you don't see the exit sign soon enough you'd have to take a timeout for weeks/months.

Interesting, Rethnu. I DO sense that if I pull back for long enough, she comes running back. But I thought that since we had sex, I was allowed to be a bit more aggressive. In your opinion, then, what should my next move be? Should I try texting her again next week or wait it out longer?

You might wanna ask yourself WHY you want to be more aggressive (pushy) towards her? You already said that you don't want a relationship with her, and you already HAD Sex with her, so as I see it you already have exactly what you wanted, you just have to keep it that way

Just think back how you seduced her in the past, continue to behave the way that got you into her pants, and reduce the wrong doings. AND find out what kind of contact-frequency she likes, I have a sex relationship with a girl that actually messages me at least 5 times a day, and also one with a girl that messages me once every few months. Doesn't matter, if you don't have enough sex get more girls, don't try to push the existing ones more cause that's not going to work IMHO.

I'd contact her again in ~2 weeks, and then just behave as if nothing happened, I always use some kind of DHV Message like "Hey, I'm actually at the beach/lake with some friends, it's great here", or something like that, it's better IMHO than a "Hey, how are you?" Message, cause that's boring and needy.

IF she messages back (IOI) you can slowly ask her again if she wanna go for a drink or something like that. But don't push her, if you get the feeling that she's not into it pull back. The more confident she get's that she could just have sex with you without any further hazzle the easier it gets.

If NOT (which will happen quite often) then contact her once every 2-4 weeks again, with the same pattern. It doesn't mean she's not into you, it just means she's not into you right now, for whatever reasons.

It's rather easy as long as you don't care, when you care too much it's getting complicated, especially for you

There could be loads of reasons why she hasn't text back... Maybe she ran out of credit? Maybe her phone died? Maybe it's broken? Maybe she's really busy and has forgotten to text you back? There really is no need to analyse it as much as all you guys are. She obviously likes you, she shagged you. Try calling her instead.