so met a girl this weekend at a bar thru a friend. i will be the first to admit i didn't build a lot of rapport with her but i think it's because she might have been a little drunk. anyway, end of night and i grab her attention. basically say that i'm not one to ask for girls #'s at bars cause it's cheesy but i'd like to meet up w/ her outside of the bar sometime. she gives me her number. i text that night saying it was nice meeting her.

two days later i call...
her: hello?
me: is this erin?
her: yes
me: hey, this is matt from (name of bar) saturday.
her: pause....i think you have the wrong phone number
me: kind of laugh (knowing it's bs). k. sorry
her: bye (with a slight laugh in her voice knowing i didn't buy it)

so...is there any way to salvage this? or just chalk this one up to an awesomely embarrassing phone convo?

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-MattyTheDentist

Thats why I try to get some sort of text conversation going. She was drunk so she probably didn't remember you that much so you basically have to start over. If you read some text game ebooks, they say that it's like dropping a frog in boiling water, it'll jump out. But if you drop a frog in cold water then turn up the heat till boiling it'll sit in there. By calling you probably took her way out of her comfort level without establishing comfort through text a little before hand.

I know it's better to phone than text but for some girls, they are just not comfortable talking to a total stranger. I go on the side of caution with all girls and just text first. If she doesn't respond, then send some funny statements or low investment texts that don't require her to respond and won't DLV yourself if she doesn't but also encourages her to respond. If she doesn't reply after 5 or so texts over the span of a few weeks I just leave her and move on.

Ex: Traffic in (your town/city) is Brutal! I need a helicopter

or " I just got you to open your phone for no reason, looks like I got you in check "

If I were you I'd just text her sometime in the next few days something like

You: "Hey binge drinker, how are you?"

Her: "bla bla bla"

You:"Must have been, you drunk txt me and tried to seduce me for sex, luckily I'm a moral rock"

ect ect.

i like it! just wondering if in this situation if i should be texting a # that i was told was "a wrong number". figure there's got to be a way to light-heartedly call her out on it otherwise i figure i look like a moron for texting a wrong #

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-MattyTheDentist

texting is less embarrassing in my opinion, if I text a wrong number oh well. I've gotten pretty mean/rude responses from texts before and it doesn't hit me nearly as hard as if it were on the phone or in person. It's just a text. It's like an IM/email. They are just letters on a screen.

whenever I get a girls phone number, I always call her right away (to make sure it's real lol, so far it never has been fake it usually isn't) then i'll okay save me as *myname* then i'll definitely CALL her on my way home that same night at like 3am
not text, call. if she doesn't pick up then i'll text and go hey slick chick..

also when you were talking don't say sorry ever, ever, ever Don't ask if that's erin of course it's her.... observe

two days later i call...
her: hello?
me: erin! I'm bored, what are you up too?

..
her: yes
me: hey, this is matt from (name of bar) saturday.
her: pause....i think you have the wrong phone number
me: bull, your lying
her: uh okay
me: Do you lie often?
her: I just don't know you, I don't want to talk to you sorry
me: What does that have to do with lying? haha you still haven't answered the question..
her: by then she should stop shit testing you.


Remember whenever a girl acts disinterest after she gave you a number, it's because she has buyer's remorse, she's attracted to you, but afraid of you... you have to comfort her, you have to chase her show her that you don't want to just decorate the inside of her vag. Ideally you don't want her to have buyer's remorse but that's going to happen.