Ok im in the same workplace with this hb7.5 wich is a very special girl,
she lives near by and she really may be a girl for a long relationship.
now i started gaming her, we are actually not working together but we are in the army together and she is 20 and im 21. in my base there are only a few girls like 20 guys on 1 girl, but i am in a position that gets me closer to many of the girls and they all come to our room (we are 4 guys in a room) in their free time (my friend is in game with one girl and the girl i like is a friend of her) and they keep on coming to our room and sit and laugh and everything even in late hours.
ok that is a background about all the girls now the story is :
i had a few talking sessions with this girl and she turned to be good for me like the same music, lives close (big bonus for a girl in the base), she is good for my height(im 1.70 meters and she is less)
now her friend who is in game with my friend to my friend that me and her should get together so i figured it is something that may have been brought up between the girls.

one day i went to the store in the base and bought some stuff but the saler didnt have change and i only had big money. she just came by chance and bought it for me
so i sent her a sms in the evening: "about the money you lend me, ill pay u back with a beer downtown in the weekend (weekends we go home and thats where the living close advantage comes to play)
she responded:
"i think cookies in the shekem(shekem is the name of the store in the base) sound more attractive "

this point i was a bit confused. is she hinting me she doesnt want me? or she is telling me to just take it slower?

so i responded:
"lol, i feel so rejected...,and im going to start a diet anyways, so the cookies are a bad idea"

she:
"Dont feel that way, its just not very proper now(in the base its not politically correct to get with a girl, obviously guys dontt really give a damn but the girls do, eventhough they break it sometimes)
"but u know we probably WILL bump into eachother sometime in town, you know how it is..."

in this point i was VERY confused
is she telling me to wait just to get to know her better? or she wants to get rid of me gently? (i know she likes me as a person, but maybe when i exposed me wanting her she feels not comfortable)

i really DONT know but she wants, and probably no one who read this post can know, since no one here knows who she is , and our status in the base and me and more stuff that makes things blur.

anyways day after these SMS's, i went through the base then i saw her sitting with 2 friends giving me a glance. i noticed that she turned her head away when she saw i looked at her back(is this a sign for interest?)
so i went to talk to her and then also in the evening we sat a bit alone and talked , no one mentioning me exposing my interest in her.

now i really want to get it right with her this time. i feel that im playing a computer game, and i lost once, and i have 2 more lifes to go before its game over.

i thought about a few options of how to keep going:
1. AFC option- just keep as usual and try again after a while
2. make her feel that she lost her chance to get with me :
this could be done in a few ways:
- talk with her friends about winging some girls for me , and by that showing her that i moved on and she is not such a big deal for me
- just ignore the shit out of her, wich way present me as if im afraid to talk to her.
3. asking her for answers : probably the worst option, since if i put pressure on her it will make me look unattractive to her.


so what do it do?? if there are more ideas please i want to hear, i want to learn and even if i fail i dont care too much i just want to learn, since im very good in first attraction but once it comes to closings i just stink!

thank you

You're just gonna have to trust me on this one, but you are WAYY over analyzing this whole thing. You invite her out for drinks, she says she prefers cookies at wherever, so what? She is just being a little flirty back, busting your balls a little bit. Just take what she says at face value! Im reading this as an unbiased third party and can tell she's into you, you just have to proceed correctly. And you should go out with her soon, as 20 to 1 is not good odds for you, and if you're not gonna make a move she'll probably get bored and go on to one of the many others.

Also, on a side note, if you're ever going to get into this game, you HAVE to get completely rid of your one-itis. I don't care if you do want to spend the rest of your life with this dream girl you've found, just don't you dare admit that to yourself! You have to convince yourself that she's nothing more to you than a slightly interesting fling, otherwise it will blow up in your face. Its been proven time and time again that the more you focus on one girl, the chances of you actually GETTING her plunge. Remember, if you think a girl is "special" go sleep with 10 others then decide if she's still so great.

Best of luck to you, let me know how it turns out.

dude thank you ill let you know