Slightly misleading but certainly attention grabbing; the point where you get the number seems almost independent of how well your conversation went. Sometimes you can have a fun flirty conversation, and then when you go for the number , it goes downhill.
This is a two-headed beast - recently with a lovely Spanish girl, I did one thing right but not the other. I did say to her "I'm going to get your number" (I.e. Told, not asked), however, there was a point in the conversation before that where I realised "okay we're getting along too well; there's no way we're parting without swapping numbers" and she felt it too a there was a pause - and I continued on with normal conversation, planning on waiting till the end before getting her number - and I sensed things go downhill from that point on. Read on to see where I messed up.
So without further ado, and with Roz's permission, comes Roz's wonderful insight on the matter.
Quote:
What are some different ways guys have asked you for a number?
Now that I think about it, the most memorable were the guys that
told me to give them my number, not the ones who asked:
"This place is pretty dead, give me your number and I'll show you a better one next week"
"You're cute, you have to give me your number"
"I'll call you, but only if you give me your number" (lol)
"You look like you're dying to give me your number"
Other ways:
"You deserve a place in my phone book"
"Can I have your number? I promise I'll break the rules and won't wait three days to call you".
I was sitting at a table once, and the friend of a friend who was sitting beside me took my phone, called his number off of it, and then said "You just gave me your number".
Then of course you have the typical: "So... can I have your number?" etc etc etc, but these were some of the most creative ways I've been asked.
In the past when I wouldn't want to give the guy my number, I would tell him to add me on facebook, or on msn/yahoo instead. Now of course, being a member of this site, I just say "I'm not interested".
Quote:
Sometimes it's almost like you have to let her think you're going to walk away without asking for it.
I think this is because girls don't like to feel like you're only talking to them with one scope in mind. Sometimes I can feel a guy is asking me mundane questions not because he actually wants to know the answers, but because he thinks it will make it less awkward when he asks me for my number... like "So.. how long have you been working here? Oh.. cool.. so do you like your job? Yeah... man it's cold outside... bla bla bla... more bla bla bla... okay so um, do you think I could get your number?" I know he's just going through the formalities to book a date or get my number, and it turns me off. Now if after he's gotten my number, he still sticks around to ask me questions, that's flattering...
CHAT