| Right heres the situation, I'm started uni 3 months ago, theres a HB9 living upstairs, first night of uni i meet her for the first time, run good game on her (with a playful and teasing style) and get her number. when I add her on fb I found out she's got a boyfriend, and focus my attention elsewhere. over the next couple of months I date a couple of other girls, but i see her regularly as we have mutual friends. everytime we were together there was great chemistry, flirting from both sides and we had some pretty intense dancing on a night out. about 10 days ago i found out she got dumped by her boyfriend (of 3 years).
I planned to show some respect and not make a move quickly, but i see her on a night out 4 days later. with little effort on my part we start making out. i say goodbye to her on the stairs (as she lives upstairs) and go back to my room, 5 mins later she texts me asking to go up. I thought about the consequences for a bit but couldnt help myself and went up to see her. after 5 mins of flirting we are in bed, she's on top of me kissing me passionately. I made a move to escalate it towards sex, but she said "i cant", so we carried on kissing for a bit, and then went to sleep.
the next morning, i could tell she felt guilty, it had only been a few days since she broke up with her bf. she also apologised for asking inviting me upstairs saying 'it was wrong to use you for tlc'. i knew i had to try and prevent it from being awkward, so i stayed the same jokey person over the next few days, and made jokes about her keeping me up all night resulting in me oversleeping for a lecture.
since then i have seen her a couple of times, at first she seemed uncomfortable about what happened, but she seems more relaxed now and its back to how it was before.... the problem is im unsure how to move things on. maybe it was just for tlc as she was feeling low after the breakup, and needed to boost her esteem by getting a boy back. in which case i annoyingly fell into the trap of being her rebound. But i really like this girl, i want a relationship with her, should I ask her on a date, or just wait for another night out and try the moves again.
any help is much appreciated. please bare in mind that this girl is in my group of friends (ive been trying to prevent it becomming to much like friends) so a really awkward situation would be best avoided.
thanks
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