Hey all,

So i consider myself fairly efficient when it comes to PU. I find this is generally because of my confident nature, and always comical mood. Anyway, this girl i go to uni with, and have so for the past few months, have always flirted and chatted briefly but i have never bothered to make anything of it. (She's super hot).

Anyway, last week i organised a thing at my place, and then headed out with a group of friends, she came with the group. I was playing it cool, not showing much interest, but initiating slight kino every now and again. We never really had a conversation (At a bar, loud music) that night, but we kept making eye contact and there was a lot of energy. After a while, towards the end of the night we started some convo, i felt the vibe and went for the kiss. Outcome was perfect, she was so into it. Immediately full kino and loving it.

Now for the advice....

I went back to hers that night with some friends, and because she didn't really want everyone else knowing, i opted for the couch upstairs (happily suggested as i wasn't looking for sex, if anything, shes a potential gf) Anyway everyone goes to sleep, she comes up and starts kissing again. Real passionate, hugging me, holding my hand etc. Falls asleep with me and make sure to wrap my arms around her. We wake a few hours later and i say she should go back to her bed as it was nearly sunrise and that way everyone won't be talking about it, haha. She goes to leave but keeps kissing me and hugging, and says "i dont know why, but im finding it so hard to leave you"

So anyway, there was amazing chemistry and definitely something special between us. In the morn she came up and held my hand.....

Now usually id show game and not text post a night with a chick, but i figured, after what went on between us, i felt it was special enough to send a text seeing were we are at. This is where i possibly went wrong as she has played it pretty cool since, and not showing much emotion. Im away for the next 4 days so cant organise a date yet, but what do you guys think i should do?

She is trying to play hard to get now, and going cold in texts. But then being flirty in others. Ive lost all game as i was so blown away by the night we had and the things she said (Seemed like she was SO whipped on me?!)

from here on in what to do???.... I dont want to full ignore and lose that connection, but dont wanna be clingy.

(Long i know, but for those who are able to read)

I think you're overthinking this. She may just be a busy person with a lot of things she has to deal with. Just because she isn't all flirty in every single text doesn't mean she still doesn't like you. Play it cool. Shoot her fun texts that aren't too serious. Worst case, is she's not really responsive. In which, these texts will let her know you're there. As long as you're on her radar, you should be able to still get to meet up with her, and build all that attraction again. That's worst case scenario.
Just play it cool, and see where it goes.

Hope that helps.

When things are going this well, you don't have to stress. It's more fun to show that everything's all cool and you can take it at an easy pace. Just as long as you're in touch with her, occasional text, phone call, to read her vibe about how the pace is going.

i'm no MPUA by any means (YET), but am i the only one that is thinking to myself, "WHY DIDNT U FULL MONTY THAT NIGHT??"

in my experience, a chick is usually more willing to LTR a guy that she's already slept with (assuming that's what u might want). it makes her not feel like a slut. plus the emotional connection of sex is higher (compared to guys).

i know mpua's can handle the whole, don't need u, and then still be in a high percentage bracket of f-closing another time. but for aspiring pua's like myself, i would have gone for it that night. had a few too many experiencing in my AFC days of not going in for the kill, and regretting it the rest of my life. (not "i wanna kill myself" regret...but more like "shit i'm stupid for not fuccing her" regret)

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