hello mate
i do a lot of specializing in high school game and my advice is a little different then the 2 ideas you have, just take it how it is, if you dont like it you dont need to use it
now, girls in high school dont know what they want. they change there minds back and fourth, they make mistakes, they are never purely wanting to stick with something, so you need to keep this in mind. she might want to have sex/be sexual one day, then regret it the next, or not want to some other day. its just natrually how they will act TRUST ME. that being said you need to take things in a different way, i suggest you spend alot of time with her, do things really fun, make this fun also romantic, just go out alot for i would say a good few weeks and just be a good and fun bouyfriend. when you guys get closer from this, my suggestion is to get her to trust you and just simply talk to her about it. when a girl loses her v-card, it is a VERY different thing the nguys, on an emotional and physical level. so you need to make it clear that she can trust you, trust you in general and in the bedroom, if she isnt feeling full comfort she isnt goin to want to give you the most important part of her body to you. so this idea is more along the lines of #2 you could say, but instead of just being romantic, connect with her, have fun with her, get her to fully trust you. dont play mind games and act like you might like other girls, guilting her into sex is very bad if she is a virgin and in high school
just something to think about mate but all in all have fun with her, she is your girlfriend!
mR.e