I've known this HB 7 for a few years and shes always been attracted to me but for the most part I ignored her because my friend liked her. Recently my friend got a gf though so i figure shes fair game now.

We've been texting each other and she keeps dropping hints and making straight up comments that she make our relationship physical. Shes told me she picked up condoms and that if we're going to hang out we have to fool around.

My problem is whenever I try and hang out with her she comes up with some excuse and flakes. The confusing part is shes tried to arrange times for us to hang out but the times always conflict with something going on at school. I'm pretty sure shes a virgin so I'm not sure if this is just her slut defense kicking in or if shes just a tease.

Any advice on how I could get her to finally commit and stop flaking would be greatly appreciated or if I'm just wasting my time.

My suggestion to you...Don't...

Even if your buddy has a gf, his ex still might think it odd to be with you knowing that you two are friends.

There is one rule that me and my buddies go by no matter what.

'We never date each other's exes and we don't target our buddies bitches'

Food for thought.

Hope that helps.

J-Dub

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J-Dub in DC

Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.

I agree with what your saying and normally I stay away from my friend's exes.

However they dated briefly over a year ago and my buddy was actually the one who told me that she liked me (she told one of his friends that told him or some other stupid high school gossip) and he told me was fine with it and I should go for her.
I was actually reluctant because of the whole ex thing but then she asked for my number and started giving me more IOI than usual so I figured I might as well...

Then she started flaking. It's not even so much that I want to close, I'm more just frustrated because this has happened to me before and I can't figure out why.

Don't try to rationalize it. If she is flaking you then its either because she is interested in someone else or you are just not that attractive to her.

So start seeing other girls but keep her on the side if you want. Don't make it appear to her that you are waiting on her to make the next move. If you do, you could be waiting forever.

Who knows, if she thinks you are seeing other girls, not exclusively, then maybe she will stop being stateside and start playing ball.

But yea, even if they dated briefly, I would still stay away from her IMHO even though your buddy gave you the thumbs up. She could still feel awkward at the whole situation.

More food for thought, maybe she is trying to get back with your buddy and playing you to get to him....Just a thought...hence all this flaking around.

Best,

J-Dub

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J-Dub in DC

Its better to be the predator than the prey.

You need to be a good player if your gonna be successful at the game.