So, I wrote about in a thread in another section. but I number-closed this girl who works at my apartment complex last week (wednesday, i think...last week was a good week...new number for everyday monday-friday ).

We said we'd hang out this weekend (I didn't specific plan it like I normally do, mistake 1). I flirt-texted a few times that night, she (HBapartment) was really receptive and bantered right back with me (which I LOVE).

Called her on Friday, had a good canned story to tell her (she even screwed up on the call for a second, then IMMEDIATELY texted me to say sorry, she had to turn around because she forgot to pick a friend of hers up and that'd she call me right back, which she did within like 25 seconds...right when she got back on, I asked "if her forgetfulness was going to be a problem, like I have you pick up my dry-cleaning for me, are you gonna totally flake and forget? etc.).

She wants to hear the rest of the story, we talk for a minute etc., then I tell her I just got these Tarot cards as a gift for my b-day (true) and I haven't opened them yet (true) and, while I'm crazy busy today and Saturday, she should stop by on Sunday so we can check 'em out, read each others futures, etc.

She was like "Maybe, I'm going home this weekend, I don't know when I'm coming back on Sunday, etc. What is Tarot anyway?"

So, I explained it to her for a second, then she said something about being "scared" of that type of stuff (this is a bad sign, right? i took her saying being scared of that stuff as she's not comfortable enough to hang out with me yet...maybe reading too much into this...?).

I kinda recovered and re-framed it like, "Oh, so you're just scared that when I read your future and find out you're a crazy axe-murderer, I'm gonna totally ignore and stay away from you forever."

She laughed her ass off at that one, and then I figured it was time for me to end the convo, so I did without any kind of stability for this weekend.

So (and here's mistake number 2), I texted her a couple minutes after the phone convo something like "Just stop by at my place at (whatever time). I promise I (probably) won't tell you your future if it sucks."

This telegraphed a lot of shit I didn't want it to...I usually handle flakes by just conveying directly to them that they knkow they want to, just say yes, I won't bite (that hard), etc....and it usually works.

But she didn't reply and I just haven't made any contact to her since then.

My thoughts: I'm not out by any means, but there is some work to be done first. I could go back in there (when she's working) and totally play it off, be cool, display somy kilelr value, couple C/F lines, etc. and that might work (but it could lead right back to the same spot again).

So, INSTEAD, I made plans with another one of the girls I met last week to go to the mall tomorrow night. And I'm having her meet me in the apartment lobby before we go (WHEN this girl will be working, right in the middle of all of this, LOL).

Social proof, takeaway, fear of loss, etc...lots of powerful stuff going on here and I think this should work...but my question is, what do I say to HBapartment when I'm there? What's my state? How do I go about this whole little manipulative shin-dig best?

If it works, I would assume I go totally nonchalant, playful when I meet girl #2 in the apt. lobby, say something a little C/F to HBapartment, then bounce out...if it works, HBapartment will contact me sometime in the nest few days, right?

What are YOUR thoughts?

WorkEthic