and kissed it went well ...We parted , she texted me the night after asking if I want to go out for her mates birthday, Which Is a week from today. Do I go am I walking into a trap, what's going on behind this?

I did get on with one of her mates,as she was there when I meet her but I'm thinking mates birthday,hmmm, how many of her mates are going to be there screening me, HELP .

Thanks

i'd go and win her friends over.

Yeah I agree.

Come on, are you afraid of girls??

Hanged= hang (with a rope around your neck until you die) in the past tense.

Definitely go. Make sure you add some uncertainty as per your free time on the day of the party. Also, you might want to spend some time with her before the party.

I tryed setting up a day 2 before the party, through a text message conversation..I asked her how her day was looking , she said 'pretty boring, what about yours', something similar to that..Now someone correct me if I'm wrong, her days looking pretty boring how is mine, don't you think that sounds like an idea to meet up? After all we have kissed and she has invited me to a party .

Anyhow..It ends up ,She says she's got to go do something that day..(What a tease) I told her she was one thin ice lol her reply was so am i. I didn't text her until 2 days later, she never replyed back...So I didn't go to no party

Why was she on thin ice?

I think if you try to answer that question, you'll find out why she never replied.

how would you handle that situation, you ask a girl if she wants to hang, as the conversation seams to be heading that way and she says she's got something else to do , there for my reply was 'your on thin ice with me now missy' , she DID reply back to that intial message, but I didn't text her back, however...As I said 2 days later I try to re intiate contact with her through text message but she didn't reply.

That's the non-reply I was talking about. When she said you're on thin ice too, that was to let you know you messed up.

Again, why was she on thin ice? Think about this and you'll have both your answers - why it was not a great reply, and the kind of thing you should have said instead.

Alot of the PUA mentality seems to say "let her know she's gonna get ditched at the first sign of trouble" but it's not actually like that.

So, if you think about why you would say "You're on thin ice" what does that mean? It means she's pushing her luck with you. She's pushing her luck because she wouldn't come out with you when she said she was bored earlier. And this is such a significant event to decline, so your opinion of her is lowering. What? She didnt' meet up with you on one crappy little afternoon instead of chilling, and you're all offended and ready to tell her she's on thin ice? How attention and fun starved are you?

She didn't go through that thought process though. She just said she had something else to do - we don't know her reasons, maybe she was shy, maybe she did realise something needed doing, or maybe she wanted you to drag her out but felt she had to initiate some banter first (no doesn't always mean no, no matter what people say). All that needs to be said is that she wasn't expecting a negative response, and so shot one back, and hasn't talked to you since.

You had to play tough because you're scared of what will happen if you don't. That comes through as clear as day to girls. They can spot irrational scared responses a mile away.

If you were a fun loving, confident guy who was happy with his life, you would have brushed off her statement that she had something to do, maybe made a joke about it, but basically said something along the lines of, no problem!

And so once you have that mindset, you can act on it. The right responses will come to mind. Of course you may have an easier time responding by text as it takes a little time to get into the right frameset depending on how often you're training yourself to do it.